The 'N' in Communicate! Part Six!

We now move into the 6th letter of the communication sequence.  This is the part of the process that involves the 'C' in communication.  'C' as we recall is to Care.  We need to Care first before we communicate in any situation.  Our relationships depend on it, but we also know that Care alone won't create effective communication.  We now travel into the 'N' as we communicate.



The 'N' is to Nurture!  To 'Nurture' is to care and encourage the development of someone or something else.  In our communication with others, we need to understand how we can grow the relationship and encourage others in the process.  Unfortunately, we tend to be in interactions with a must win attitude and with the tone of selfishness.  We focus on us in the interaction and relationship and fail to see the other person.   We need to not only infuse our point of view into any interaction, but also find ways to influence and help the other person to grow in their understanding of the situation.  It isn't always about us and as I have said countless times before, we must understand the position of the other person in their quest for resolution and support.  When you are out to help others, you see beyond their inadequacies and can focus on their possibilities.  Share, care and help prepare!  You have the power to build healthy relationships when you seek to first help those you are interacting with.

A couple pointers for you concerning the 'N' - Nurture!

1.  Before you enter enter an interaction in a relationship, know the situation.  What are the details behind the interaction?  Get to know what are the hidden pieces within the relationship.  Why are you entering the interaction or relationship?  What is the value to both parties?  Understanding the value to everyone involved helps us understand the value of what we are about to encounter.  Many times we react due to initial emotion and then compound the difficulty in our relationship.  Take that moment to cool down and seek to find the pieces involved within the situation.  Your relationship depends on you being patient and understanding.  Show your resolve to solve.

2.  Be the other person!  What?  Are you crazy?  Why would I want to do that?  Get that way of thinking out of your head.  If you were to put yourself in the other person's position, you would be able to strategize in order to get your point across more effectively.  Once you are the other person, you see their point of view and can create more effective statements.  Nurture - help by caring and encouraging.  Knowing them helps you care and encourage.  Lose your selfishness and help seek resolution.  You can do it!

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Communicate Part 5 the "U"! I'm Back...Let's Continue!

I apologize for the long delay in my "communication"!  No excuses.....just got caught up in travels and consulting.  We had covered 'C', 'O', 'M' and 'M' thus far.... we Care, Observe, Make Time and Movement in our communication with others.  So what is this 'U' all about?

U: To Understand!  To truly enable healthy communication with ourselves as well as with others, we must find the ability to understand.  We find the definition of understand to be our ability to grasp the meaning of something and its reasonableness.  To understand is to be thoroughly familiar with the character and propensities of something or someone.  My thought is that in communication we must really adhere to the part of the definition that states our need to show a sympathetic or tolerant attitude toward something or someone!  How tolerant are you of others and even of yourself?  What does tolerance mean to you?  A simple definition can be one that states our willingness to accept feelings, habits or beliefs that are different than our own.  How judgmental are you?


We often find conflict in our communication with others because we find ourselves judging that other person or persons before us.  We make assumptions before we truly get to know the other individual.  Think about this for a second.....There are no two people exactly alike.  Even twins will have some difference however small it may be.  So if we are all different (thank goodness!), then why are we so quick to lose tolerance of others and even ourselves at times?  You can see by the events in this world that the 'U' in the word communicate is not used or considered at all.  We see wars, divorces, fights, riots, laws, .....the list goes on because we fail to truly understand those before us.  Who determines what is perfect or what is truly right? Even in religion there needs to be tolerance and understanding of others.  In Christianity, Jesus communicated with those who were not of faith and who were 'sinners'.  Why is it then that many Christians find themselves not understanding or tolerant of those who are not like them?  Why is it this way in all religions when in fact most of the 'prophets' preached of acceptance and care?  Hmmm....we wonder why there is so much turmoil in this world and even in our simple relationships!

A few things to consider:
1.  Look at the whole picture before you begin to communicate a difference or when there is a conflict.  Seek to 'Understand' the other person's point of view and where they are coming from.  You often hear that you shouldn't judge until you have walked in another's shoes.  There is a great deal of meaning behind that statement.  You need to look through the lense of the other's life before you begin your communication.  This will enable you to approach your communication in a much more empathetic and sympathetic way.  You will be able to ask questions that direct the conversation to the issue instead of the 'behaviors' and 'values' of each person.

2. Shut up!  What I mean by this is that you need to listen more and talk less.  When you allow the other individual to talk, you open up your understanding of the issue at hand and the pieces of the other person that are the values, beliefs, and understandings they possess.  When you truly listen, you can re-phrase statements that are made by the other individual and generate questions that guide the conversation toward a solution. Keep your communication brief, meaningful and on target with the issue at hand and not on the individual in front of you.  Keep it simple and make sure you 'C' first and foremost - Care!

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Part 4! The Second "M"! And...... Action!

The second 'M' in the word Communicate is "Movement"!  This 'M' is the catalyst to building healthy relationships in life.  You must take action in order to create vibrant, healthy relationships not only with others, but with yourself as well.   We must Care first, then Observe and find ways to Make Time to communicate, but these are not effective unless we "MOVE!"

We often visualize and dream about how we want things to be.  We find ourselves wishing and dreaming our lives away as our relationships go nowhere.  This is because we fear "Movement".  Movement causes change and change can cause discomfort.  We are led from the comfort of our thoughts into reality.  Reality can cause fear because we can't truly control all the aspects of it.  There are others who can influence it and distract us from what we desire.  In a dream we can control all aspects and make our relationships so 'fairy tale' like.  We can change this aspect and that.  We can manipulate the others in our dreams.  In reality, we can't manipulate and control all the aspects.  We must face the obstacles and find ways to overcome them in order to make our dreams a reality.  We can't just wish or want a dream, we have to 'will' it.  To 'will' it is to take action and set out your plan while maintaining courage.  With your tools thus far, all you need to do is begin to move...to Communicate!  Communicate through movement in order to reach what it is that you desire in a relationship and in You!


Here are a couple ways you can build the second 'M' in Communicate:

1.  As you are involved in interactions, take note of what is occurring.  Create a journal of the interactions and begin to discover what it is you are wanting from this relationship.  If the interactions are stale or involve conflict, discover what is missing and causing these to occur.  Don't just wish it to be better and think that it will fix itself sooner or later.  If you do nothing, then nothing will be resolved and the issue will always continue in that relationship.  You must take action and create movement.  The simplest way to handle conflict in a relationship is to ask questions that force the other person to reflect on themselves and respond.  Don't ask questions that create a defensive stance, just questions that help you clarify the issue.  Let them know you understand their position, but that you want clarification.  It is really simple, but takes some practice.  Just be observant ('O' - truly listen an observe) and then clarify those points around the issue that is occurring.   Please contact me directly via my website www.thetajlgroup.com, my email at thetajlgroup@gmail.com or pick up my book on Amazon Kindle - The Tattered Cover Book Store - or via my website "Tennis Everyone! An Empowering Way to Improve Your Interactions with Others"  to discover how to create effective interactions.

2. Overcome your fear.  Courage is to face uncertainty without being overcome by fear, doubt or to be distracted from your purpose or goal.  You can simply do this by taking action.  You don't have to jump into an argument, but influence the other person through your actions.  Don't worry about what they may think or that you may have lost, but just stay focused on your goal in the relationship.  Do not take action with the thought of winning, take action with the tools of Care, Observe and Make Time.  Put your purpose in front of you and move with your passion.  Do not create outcomes in your mind that keep you from being honest and moving forward.  If an interaction begins to become 'heated', just smile and ask that you continue the interaction at a later date.  Never give into the temptation of having to win or becoming defensive.  Just be honest and kind, your actions will influence them over time.  Consistency builds courage!  Be yourself and don't try to change others as you never will be able to.

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Are You Like Senator Walsh and Creating a Remix of Others' Works?

The headlines are booming about Senator Walsh's plagiarism on his War Thesis.  The critics are out and the country is all a "buzz"!

What about your life?  Are you truly living your life's purpose, dreams and passions?  Or... Are you just plagiarizing  your life?   We allow ourselves to get conditioned by the media, friends, family, etc, that we fail to actually step out and live our lives.  We criticize those who are different.  We judge those who do things that are out of the supposed "normal"!  What if they are just living their lives and passions?  They seem happy. Are you?

You need to stop!  Stop and look at your life.  Evaluate your dreams and passions and discover how to make them a reality.  I was talking to an individual the other day.  She is successful and has much, much more to offer.  As we talked, she discovered that her life is in a rut.  Her life balance is out of balance.  Just as your vehicle's tires need rotating and balanced, so do our lives.

Look at how you are living and figure out if you are living your true "thesis" or are you just plagiarizing other's lives?  We can criticize Senator Walsh for his plagiarism, but aren't we doing the same in the way we live?

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The First 'M' in Communicate! Part 3 is Here!

We are moving forward in order to create healthier and stronger relationships and communication processes. We had started with the 'C' for Care and then the 'O' for Observe.  Now it's time to move on to the first 'M' for 'Make Time'.

This is such an important aspect to our ability to communicate not only with others, but with ourselves!  Time never stops and continues moving.  We can't stop time, but we can influence it.  Do you use the excuse that you don't have time to communicate with someone or take time for yourself?  I'm sure you do!  Healthy and strong communication takes time.  You may need to find some ways to influence your time so that you truly communicate and listen to you, your loved ones, those you work with and even to those you pass by.  When you make time to listen, you are using the 'C'-Care and 'O'-observe in order to truly understand the needs of others and of yourself!

Making time seems to be one of the hardest things for us to do.  We find ourselves stressed as we never have enough time to complete this task, do our jobs or what have you.  If you don't stop and look in the mirror and see yourself, you will find that time becomes more and more of an issue!  You are hurting your relationships with your loved ones, your co-workers, yourself and others.  You begin to focus on what is not important and begin a journey of stress by creating unbalanced living and relationships.

Here are a couple ways you can build the 'M', the Make Time piece:

1.  Create a simple way to plan your week and even plan your social time.  If you follow my www.careermadesimple.com site, you know that I continually stress using 15 minutes on Sunday nights to plan your week.  In those plans you need to plan "time" for yourself as well.  Prioritize your week with a simple strategy of using letters, numbers, colors or symbols that will help you prioritize what you have coming up for the week.  Know that there are things that need to be done within a certain amount of time and plan them!  Then take those items that are important, but more flexible and move them as needed as the week proceeds!  Those lower importance items can be deleted as the week goes on or can be moved to much later dates.  Even if you do this, here is where you fail when it comes to Communication!  You will prioritize only those work items that are important or school homework and other items like this.  You won't prioritize those items like talking to your kids, your spouse, your loved ones, and others as high.  Why not?  They are the most cherished people you have in your life.  They are the greatest treasure you have!  What about yourself?  You need to make a high priority to spend time on yourself whether it be reading a book, relaxing, exercising....you name it.  Listen to what your body is saying and actually schedule some time!

2. Leave things where they need to be left!  Here is a simple strategy that will help you improve your communication and open up some time.  We tend to carry around issues and taking them into arenas where they don't belong.  This creates confusion and takes away from the those things that are important for the interaction you are involved in.  You need to open up time by taking on those conflicts or items that you are dwelling on.  You have an issue at work for example.  The issue at work needs to be discussed with the individuals who are involved at work.  When you don't handle that right away, you begin to worry and dwell which takes away from your TIME!  How can you make time for your loved ones when you are focused on an issue that doesn't involve them?  Why throw it into their arena?  Why take away from the time you need for yourself?  Why?  You need to leave things where they belong and handle them there!  This may seem complicated, but it's not.  I would love to help you with my latest theory that will help you understand and correct this behavior. You will find that you have more quality time in life to truly communicate!  Just leave things where they belong and plan out how you will handle them!  I would love to help you with this, so contact me or Karina at khernst@syr.edu!

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Part Two to Stronger Communication and Relationships! "O" - CO........

The "O" is part two in this process as we spell out Communicate!  "C" was to care and we understand that we must truly care first.  What about this "O"?

"O": Observe.  This is the next step in better understanding those you interact with as you journey through life.  Looking up the definition of "observe" generates two major themes.  The first definition of observe gives us a theme of noticing, perceiving something or someone and to make note as being significant.  Our second definition takes us on the theme that we fulfill or comply with.... a social, legal, religious, ethical or other obligation.  With those two definitions in mind, which one truly is important in our quest to build stronger communication and relationships?

The answer to that question actually encompasses both meanings.  When we find that we truly care in a relationship, we then begin to notice the other person(s) and make our interaction significant.  Often time though, we are too focused on other aspects within our own world or mind that we fail to truly observe the other person's need or request from us.  This can begin the cycle of a relationship of turmoil.  So....what about this other definition?  This can really make our interactions exciting to say the very least.  If we become so absorbed in our obligations, we often fail to see the other "side" in the interaction and their obligations.  Wow.... we just created a thunderstorm of activity in our relationship with another.  Wait.......what if we practice the "C" first?  Can that help change the outcome in this relationship?  Sure can....but it comes down to you taking control of your actions, approach and thoughts, and understanding that you cannot change the other person.  You can only influence their actions and thoughts just as they can influence yours!

Here are some simple ideas to help you grow the "O" in your communication:

1.  You must approach the interaction understanding the "where" the other person(s) comes from.  What obligations do they carry with them?  You need to perceive their beliefs and values as you approach the interaction.  What if you meet this person in public or they are a customer? That's simple.  Get a quick idea of who they are by the location you are interacting with them in. What "kind" of individual would frequent this place?  What are their initial comments and questions?  If you are not sure, just ask!  Simple thing to do...."How can I help you?" Try this in a coffee shop with someone who seems distant or appears through our perception to be feeling low.  What baggage are they bringing into this conversation or into the relationship?  Put your obligations and beliefs on hold in order to assess where this other person is coming from.

2.  When you begin to speak of your "obligations" or at least hint around them, what do you observe in the other individual?  What does their body language tell you?  Their eyes?  What comments come from their mouths?  We tend to get really defensive if we sense a negative reaction to our comment or belief.  Stop.....don't dwell on that reaction and observe "YOU" first.  How are you reacting and responding to other person?  What are you saying? How are you saying it?  Quick eval.......then move on.  See.....we aren't always going to agree with another person and understand .....that is okay.  We just need to observe their "obligations" to understand their words and reactions towards us.  Instead of becoming defensive, become offensive without being "offensive".  What?!?  Begin to be pro-active and not re-active.  Do this without insults, harsh words, disgusted body language, and more.  Do this by simply affirming and asking questions!  "I understand your thoughts on this, but how does this build upon the need for "X"?" You fill in the "X".

3. You must observe the "YOU" in you.  Your "obligations" are important to you and you must not change in order to maintain the relationship.  This only leads to you trying to become something you aren't.  Love is powerful, but without a good foundation it is not always strong enough.  The strength of your relationship is based on your maintaining of your values.  Hey!  What if my values change?  Okay....your values may change, but you as a person don't change.   We often label ourselves based on behaviors instead of who we truly are.  Have you determined your "purpose" in life?  Who are you?  Look deep inside and understand who "YOU" are.  What are your passions?  Dreams? What is that deep inner feeling of what you are to be in life?  Are you willing to give this up in order to maintain a relationship that "changes" you?  Deep stuff....too deep for this blog!!!  Probably will confuse you.  I'll stop......there is an interesting process to get through this piece and be able to understand and have healthy relationships even with your "enemies"!  Since you are "YOU", your process may vary from another......deep...I'll stop!

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11 Part Process to Stronger Communication and Relationships! "C"

This is going to be an 11 part posting about how to "Communicate"!  Communication is considered the key to successful relationships and interactions with others.   Let's get started with the first "C" in communicate!

"C" :  Care!   Within any relationship the first thing one must do is care!  If you were to look up the definition of care, you would find that it simply means to feel concern, attach importance or paying serious attention. You will also find that it means to look after or provide for the needs of another and more.  The big question is then, "Do you care?"

For educators, the big key is to care first and curriculum second.  For success in school, the students must feel that they are being cared for and are important.  Often as educators, we can find ourselves so absorbed in the processes and getting through the curriculum that we fail to get to "know" the student.   Finding your base in this type of relationship is essential to the long term success of the individuals.   How do you communicate that care?  What about other relationships?   The same type of reasoning applies as well.  You must care first!  Not only must you care about the other person or persons in the relationship, but you must also care about yourself.   We often hear that we must "love ourselves before we can love others."   If that statement is true, then we must "care about ourselves before we can care about others."  Whatever you believe, you must understand that we truly must care first!

Here are some simple solutions to building stronger communication which leads to stronger relationships even with Yourself!  How to "Care" when we "Communicate"!

1. You need to define how you feel about the other person or persons you are interacting with.  You may not "truly" like the other individual(s), but you must find that purpose for the interaction.  We are all faced with communicating with individuals that we have an interest in as well as those who come into our lives due to work or other situations.  No matter what the case may be, you must find at least one piece that is important to this interaction.  Put aside other feelings or past "events" and seek the importance of this one interaction.  Find it in your inner being to have some sense of concern for the interaction at hand and truly for the others that are involved.  Remember that your actions and approach will determine the outcome of this interaction.
2. Your actions play an important part in this first piece of "Communicate."  When interacting with another individual, your body language needs to express an interest in the other individual(s) or issue at hand.  Go back to the purpose of this interaction and put aside other feelings.  Open up your posture!  When we cross our arms and find ourselves leaning back,  we are expressing "defense", lack of trust and an "I don't care" attitude.  Even if you feel that way, force your body language to open up. Open up your posture by uncrossing those arms, lean forward a little and acknowledge them by simple "head" nods and hand gestures.  This display shows that you are listening and have an interest in what is being said - that you care.  Practice this in the mirror.....you can do it!  Be open and positive!  Smiling is a great touch unless it is something that is very serious.  Know the audience!
3. Let them speak and be open to listening to what is being said.  You can demonstrate "Care" through your responses.  Ask questions for clarification and even paraphrase some of their comments.  Acknowledge their feelings and ask simple questions to help them discover their answers to what they are dealing with.  Let them express themselves, but help them stay focused on what the purpose of the interaction is.  Just be "You" and find it in you to "Care".  Once you find yourself focused on the other individual and not on you, the whole relationship will grow.  Make this a special moment, but set limitations!  When you listen, you must also know the limits of your abilities and time.  You can always refer the other person to another, an organization or a professional.  If the issue being discussed is about you,  listen and respond honestly!  You must also care about yourself and express your feelings and needs as well.  Honesty is the simple, yet effective approach to strong "Caring" communication!

We will complete Communicate....next post is "O"!

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We Are All Made to be Unique, so Love the Uniqueness!

The beauty of life is that we were all made with some piece that is unique from those around us.  Instead of celebrating what makes each of us unique, we judge and demean.  We even criticize our own unique qualities instead of finding how these unique qualities could be of service to us and those around us.

The definition of unique finds itself as being the only one of its kind and unlike anything else.  The unique qualities of us make us distinctive, special, individual and even idiosyncratic!  What?  Idiosyncratic?  That sounds like idiot with some syncratic in it! Oh...it means distinctive, unique and more.  Whew....for a second there I thought being critical was going to be okay as our uniqueness makes us idiots!  Actually it can if our approach is off!  We need to stop thinking of the uniqueness of others as strange and "scary".  How can we build upon these qualities?  How can we be compassionate?

Uniqueness is being limited in occurrence to certain situations, areas and classes as well as being limited to a single outcome or result.  Here is where we are challenged to see the beauty in the unique qualities we all have. Certain groups have unique customs, foods, language and other qualities that identify them.  Within each of these groups we begin to find unique qualities among the individuals.  These qualities can be physical, emotional, attitudinal, and more....  We tend to judge groups based on the outlying qualities and fail to realize that the individuals themselves are different.  Once we begin to know and truly understand the individuals, we begin to realize the beauty of the group.  We see a physical uniqueness of someone or observe a unique behavior and then immediately go back to our perceptions.  Our perceptions are based on our prior experiences, thoughts, implanted beliefs, upbringing, what she said, and more!  We create  our realities of someone or some group with our perceptions based on what we have heard or through "one" experience. We focus on the perception and begin to judge and miss out on the opportunity to grow from that individual or group and even to share our uniqueness with them.   Guess what?  As you throw your perceptions and fail to embrace the uniqueness of those around you, they are doing the same to you!

How do we stop the madness?  It is quite simple.  Mastering the simplicity is an amazing thing.  If you would take an approach that celebrates what is before you, you would begin to see how wonderful YOU are as well as how wonderful those around you are!  Instead of focusing on the failure and creating issues, look at the upside of each person, quality and situation.  From all that seems bad, comes good.  If we would embrace and accept ourselves and those around us for who we are, we would have enhanced relationships and experiences.  You might be like...."What are you talking about?"  I understand because my uniqueness is based on seeing the opportunity for ALL to experience an amazing life adventure!  I see qualities in people they don't see themselves and know the amazing things they could do with their uniqueness.  I tell them!  It isn't hard to see your own potential of your uniqueness if you let go!  To let go is to judge less and love more!  Wake up each day and be thankful for who you are and for others, scream that the day is going to be the best ever and carry your positive attitude with you throughout the day.  When someone begins to fall or fail, catch them.  When someone around you begins to lose faith in themselves and their uniqueness, support them.  We can't change those around us, but only influence them.  If we begin to look at the beauty in the uniqueness of ourselves and others and celebrate it, then those around us will begin to do the same.  As smiles are contagious in life, so are our reactions and behaviors towards ourselves and others!

Go live life and love all the uniqueness of each day!

You Can't Just "Blow" it Away, You Have to "Suck" it Up!

I seem to be focusing on "leaf blowers" this past month!  Thank goodness for the snow yesterday as this will keep the "blowers" from irritating us all!  I wanted to discuss how "blowing" your yard waste around is kind of like how we don't handle issues in life and just keep pushing it around and around.  So...here it goes.

I constantly hear the sound of a leaf blower in my neighborhood and around town during my travels.  I notice how the operator just blows the clippings, leaves and other items out in the street, the neighbor's lawn, or whatever seems convenient.  Why don't the operators use the vacuum option and just "suck" up the waste and discard it?  I know there are those two options on these "leaf blowing" tools.  That is how we often approach our "trash" or issues in life.  We tend to just blow them around and expect everyone else to deal with it or clean it up for us.  It doesn't work as illustrated by one guy with his "leaf blower"!  He must use that thing at least twice a day in order to clean up the area around his house.  You see, the wind blows and just blows that stuff right back from where he blew it away.  What a waste of time and energy on his part as it becomes a never ending process....nothing gets accomplished!   All that is happening is that the "yard waste" just gets shuffled around and around until someone picks it up or nature eventually sends it far away.  The "trash" never gets dealt with and continues to irritate the "leaf blowing man".   We need to understand this illogical approach to cleaning up our "life issues" as well.  We can't just wish it or dream it away, we have to deal with it!  How do we deal with it?

The other option on a "leaf blower" is the vacuum option.  What happens with this option is that the leaves and other yard items get "sucked" up into the machine, mulched and distributed into the attached bag.  The operator then empties the bag as it gets full into a yard receptacle and then continues until the "yard waste" has been cleaned up.  How simple is that?  Well, that can be accomplished in our own lives as we deal with difficult relationships, issues, obstacles...what have you.  You need to deal with the conflict right away.  I don't mean that you go in and "grind" everybody up with your new found idea, but that you go in with some simple strategy and "clean" up the mess.  Whenever we are faced with a conflict, the longer we "blow" it off and not deal with it the bigger it becomes.  Just "blowing" the leaves around doesn't reduce the waste, only allows for more waste to accumulate.  This is exactly what happens when we don't deal with a conflict.  We push it around, share it with others, get more people involved, spend time self-medicating and hoping it goes away, and more!  Stop!  Turn the "blower" to the "suction" mode and begin to deal with it!  Be honest in your approach and find ways to calmly clean up the "mess".  But how?

Start your approach by figuring out what "issues" really exist.  We create most if not all of our issues in life!  How big is the "pile" that is before you?  What have you added that you can clean up first in order to reduce the conflict?  Admit your own part in the issue and "suck" it up first.  Take responsibility and then begin to decide how you will approach the other "trash" left behind by someone else.  Your approach is going to determine how difficult of a time you have!  Be positive and turn the "vacuum" on low.  Don't rush in and try to pick it up all at once!  Take a few pieces at a time and constantly empty the "bag".

Your relationships in life are simple if you allow yourself to make mistakes and move on!  Need some help in this part of your "yard"?  Please contact me through my website at www.thetajlgroup.com, via email at thetaljgroup@gmail.com and listen to our radio show at www.blogtalkradio.com/jeffreylund "Mastering Life's Simplicity"   I want to help you help yourself and others in this world!

Is it better to have Bright Colorful wings or Clear wings in life?

"Is it better to have bright colorful wings that are sweet for all to see or clear wings that produce a sweet product for others to use?"

As you probably guessed, the two characters in this question are the butterfly and the bee.  So?  What's the big deal?  Well, in a basic sense (please don't over think this and criticize me...no go ahead and comment) both the butterfly and the bee do the same task.  They help pollinate flowers and such.  But what do they produce for us?  The butterfly can amaze us with it's beauty and often mesmerize as it flies by.  The butterfly can turn a sad moment into a wonderful moment.  The bee often terrifies some as it has the capacity to sting, but at the same time we can enjoy the fruits of its labor.  How does this relate to life?  To you?

We become very judgmental in life.  We find individuals being criticized because they may be successful and beautiful. You may think that they don't produce anything good for others except to create scandal and what have you.  Look at Hollywood and the tabloids.  All these beautiful successful individuals that just create movies and such.  Many would criticize them for this type of ... well productivity.  Often those who have become successful and such are judged because of it.  They may have flashy cars, large houses, "perfect" teeth and such, but are often criticized even by those they trust.  Why be jealous and focus on their bright colorful wings when you have bright colorful wings yourself.  You only focus on what you perceive to be true instead of focusing on what you can create to be true.  Find your wings!

Often we find individuals being praised because they volunteer and create products or systems to help others.  At the same time we find these very people being criticized because they only focus on this particular group or what have you.  They may cause discomfort in their activities as they strive to help others in this life. They are seen as a menace even though they are trying to create something in order to help someone else. Businesses, salespeople, inventors and such are often criticized when they charge for a product developed to solve a need.  Religious organizations are often criticized for their beliefs even though they are helping others find drinking water, food, clothing and what have you.  Stop focusing on the clear wings of others and develop your clear wings you already have.  Begin to use your wings to create something that you have a passion for and create that sweet honey that others may need.  Find your wings!

The question then remains, "Is it better to have bright colorful wings that are sweet for all to see or clear wings that produce a sweet product for others to use?"   The answer is truly that both are good!  You see as trivial as some of this may seem, they both serve a purpose.  It thus verifies the fact that there is always a cost and always a critic. We spend so much time trying to figure out the reason for something that we fail to realize the beauty is provides.  Both the butterfly and the bee produce something sweet, we just want to make it sour.  Find a way to stop looking at the sour in life and see the beauty it has to offer.  Instead of judging all that is around you, seek to find the beauty in all that you face.  Look in the mirror and see both the butterfly and the bee that are inside of you.  Whatever you have in life, you have been given in order to share with others.  Be thankful for who you are and pollinate this world with your bright colorful wings and your clear wings!

Enjoy this one life you have to the fullest as it is a gift!

Find Your Paths in Life That Lead to Happiness and Success!

With the upcoming show tonight titled, "Advice Night! A Compass to Guide You in Life!", I thought I would briefly talk about this so called "Compass".   This "Compass" is already in our life toolbox, yet we rarely seek that tool.  It is so simple and yet so hard to use.



Just like any tool that you use to build something or fix something, it has a specific use as well other uses you might need.  A wrench is used to tighten or loosen bolts, but sometimes you use it as a hammer!  Well, this "Compass" is designed to guide you down the right career, life, leadership or relationship path.  Like anything else in life, there is always a cost.  The "Compass" will point you in the right direction if used properly, or can take you down the wrong path.

Like any tool, the tool is only as good as the user.  We often hear that "a computer is only as smart as it user".  This is true in anything we undertake.  We are only human and therefore make mistakes.  To truly use this "Compass", you may have to make some tough choices and some difficult decisions.  This "Compass" like any other tool can be manipulated into using for another function.  Be careful as there is nothing for free in life or easy!  This tool creates simplicity and with your common sense it is amazing!

Are you at a crossroads in life?  Check out www.careermadesimple.com to use this "Compass" in order to find your true career or create happiness in your current career.  So....what path do you need to venture on now?  Here is your simple tool.....the "Compass"!

The "Compass" is a question.   "DOES THIS MAKE SENSE?"   In any interaction, relationship, career, job or life in general, we need to ask this question when faced with a decision!  Try it out on any issue you have created in your life as you are where you are today because of the decisions and paths you have chosen thus far.   Just asking the question won't take you on the correct path....you need to know how to use it!

Join us on our new "Career Made Simple! Career Advice Connection!" BlogTalkRadio show via blogtalkradio.com/jeffreylund  on Sunday nights starting April 28th!  (8 pm Mountain Time)  You can get your career advice here and how to use the "Compass" in order to find that ultimate career you are seeking!  Contact me via the website at www.thetajlgroup.com and get your free advice on how to use this "Compass."  Your Path?  The Journey Begins!

Advice Night! A "Compass" to Guide You in Life!

Please join me this Thursday, April 17th at 9 pm Mountain Time as we discuss the one simple tool you already have in your "life tool box" that can help you discover the right path in life!

Please check out this week's show by clicking on the following link:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/jeffreylund/2014/04/18/advice-night-a-compass-to-guide-you-in-life#.U0sDgIJUaO0.gmail

Life constantly throws "crossroads" at us.  Which path should I take?  What decision should I make? Is this relationship the right one?  What should I do?   There is a simple "Compass" in life that will help you move in the right direction!

 Should I take this journey?

There will always be unknowns, but at least with a compass we can get a direction!

"Facing" the thousands of on lookers and discovering the new hope - The continued journey!

Adversity never goes away and we continue to face new challenges as we stroll through our lives.  In my story about "losing my face", I left off at the time I exited surgery with thousands of stitches in my face and my jaws wired!  Well.....here we go as we finish up this trial in life.  Actually, it continues to this day! Adversity and pain never truly go away.

I was in my hospital room and wanting feverishly to go home.  The trauma of the event made me long for being in a place of comfort.  My friend was visiting me and I explained how I wanted to go home.  I explained to him that if I could get up and go to the bathroom by myself, I could lobby to go home.  Like a 3 year old finally getting the "potty" adventure down.  He helped me to the bathroom door and I entered with such determination to accomplish this task that was once so simple.  After I finished my adventure, I needed to wash my hands.  What is above the sink?  You guessed it, a mirror.  I had not seen myself since the surgery and was about to come "face to face" with reality.  I remember leaning my hands over the sink without placing myself directly in front of the mirror. lol.  I did a quick head move into the mirror so as to not really see myself.  I did this several times and knew that my friend was probably waiting outside the door hoping I had not fallen in or something.  I decided to "suck it up" and look in the mirror.  I remember that moment to this day and the image that was before me.  A bruised and swollen disfigured face with thousands of stitches and bars peeking behind the ever so torn lips.  I quickly let out a loud "oh no!"  I cried inside for a few moments and then smiled.  I remember opening the door and my good friend in a very concerned tone asking if I was all right as he had heard my "gasping" Oh No!  I was able to saying to him that I was okay, but disappointed that it wasn't Halloween as I had a built in mask.  We laughed and the pain shot through my face as the stitches tore at the incisions.  Laughing was once so easy and now was a painful joy.  I did get to go home and then had to face the many on lookers who began to visit.  At first I felt like a "freak show" act at a carnival wishing I didn't have to face the on lookers.  I then realized that there was nothing I could do, but face them all with dignity and confidence!

The summer progressed and I had one re-constructive surgery and had to wait until December or January to have a surgery that would truly remold my face.  The dental work couldn't start until the fall and yet I had college starting in late August.  Because I could not have sun on my face, I had to wear hats everywhere and as much sun screen as possible.  I was missing teeth and others were chipped and dying.  School was about to start and I was about to enter a campus of 20 to 30 thousand students with classes that sat hundreds.  I had to go as my goal was to complete college.  I couldn't let this obstacle no matter how difficult stop me from completing my goal of a college education.  To me the costs were too high!  I went back to school looking like a "freak" with tons of ointment on my face and a huge cowboy hat.  My face still disfigured and my teeth in a shambles, on I trotted.  I remember my physics class.  I had no feeling in my lower lips and the right side was almost missing anyway.  I remember taking endless notes and listening so intently that when I looked down at my paper there was a pool of drool.  How embarrassing, had anyone seen?  Were they observing this drool dripping onto my paper as I knew nothing of its occurrence?  I don't want to bore you with endless rambling about "oh poor me", but wanted to give you a taste of what was occurring.  I had to make a choice and the choice meant sacrificing pride and moving toward that goal.  How many times have you lost sight of a goal because of a small obstacle?  How many times have you let others talk you out of continuing your journey toward your goal?  There were some who thought I should take a semester off, but I couldn't.  I couldn't let the adversity before me win!

The journey from this one quick accident continues to follow me. Over 20 years ago I underwent this adventure and this past fall I had to endure one of the worst surgeries yet (In my current opinion).  I had no choice and understood that this adversity that life dealt me will be with me until the end of time.  Will I let it get me down or will I persevere and enjoy this one life I have?  I choose to live life to the fullest and control my attitude.  You see, things are only as bad as we allow them to be.  My friends....simplify life and use your attitude as that one power you have to overcome all that lies before you.  I truly want to help you if you need some support.  Contact me via my website (www.thetajlgroup.com), via email at thetajlgroup@gmail.com or call in to my blogTalkradio show at (646)200-4737 Thursday nights at 9 pm Mountain Time!  I want to help you find your wonderful life adventure and share ways for you to simplify life and truly enjoy the journey!

Live Life Like a Documentary 03/27 by Mastering Lifes Simplicity | Relationships Podcasts

Live Life Like a Documentary 03/27 by Mastering Lifes Simplicity | Relationships Podcasts

From Two Face to New Face? Stage 1 - The Journey Begins

Adversity is always amongst us each and every day.  The level of adversity however is never constant.  We determine the level based on our reactions to situations that occur around us.  When we are in a state of feeling low or even physically ill, the smallest situation can cause us the greatest harm.  This helps establish the fact that we create our obstacles or issues in life.  What is your level of adversity?  How do you handle the challenges that you face?  How do you react when wronged?  Almost dropped?

In the last blog I asked the question, “Could it get worse?”   There I was getting carted into the emergency room and being cared for.  The emergency personnel and all who were helping me were amazing.  The hustle and bustle as I was being cared for was an incredible process to behold.  The team carted me to the x-ray room in order to check for any spinal, neck, or other damage.  I didn’t want to be paralyzed for sure.  As they were lifting me onto the x-ray table from the cart, the power went off!  With this unexpected power failure, they almost dropped me.  I began to laugh as much as I could.  I think I bewildered them at that moment.  My comment was, “Can it get any worse?”  Being dropped at that time may have been insult to injury or much worse.  Oh well, we can’t worry about what we can’t control.  Do you find yourself “almost being dropped” when in an interaction with another or in relationships?  Can’t worry about what you can’t control.  You need to change your attitude and accept the challenge.  Understand that worry will create an issue in your life that didn’t exist prior to that moment.  How you approach the situation will determine the outcome.  Had I become angered or stressed during that moment, I would have transferred that anger and stress on to those who were caring for me.  By allowing them to understand that I accepted the fact that “crap happens”, they were able to continue with their tasks in an appropriate manner.  I often find that when things don’t work out as expected, my approach can create an even “more wonderful” experience.  I chuckle when individuals get so upset because their order at a restaurant was “messed up”.  They become so upset that the beans were not cooked properly or that the food is slightly cold, that they then create an issue not only for themselves but also for those around them.  I have received more free food, new friendships and joy when I have approached a situation like this with a “that’s okay attitude” or “mistakes happen” or “It’s not that big a deal”.  Let’s continue with the story.

I went through a 5 plus hour reconstructive surgery and awoke with a great deal of discomfort and pain.  By the way, one’s body does not like swallowing so much blood.  Quite a violent reaction for sure!  More adversity!  I remember it fondly and just told myself that it would pass.  Having your mouth wired shut and thousands of stiches makes it quite difficult to say the least. It passed and things got better.  That is how adversity in life is.  The pain will pass, but know it may always still linger throughout life.  You have to choose your attitude as you approach change, challenges and more!  Adjust your thinking in order to get through the challenges you face.  You can’t always control the outcomes, but know that you can influence them.  We can’t truly change those around us, but we can influence their thinking by the way we approach our relationships and adversity around us.

I need to pause this blog at the moment and will finish in my next posting as we discuss how to face those around us.  With thousands looking at me, I was able to accomplish my goal!  You can too, if you understand how to maintain purpose.  Remember how you feel when you had some “green” in your teeth and didn’t find out until after the fact.  Now compound that a 1,000 times and understand how you can see how blessed you truly are even when in the face of adversity.  Until next time, love life and all it throws at you!

Join me on Thursday evening at 9 pm MST on www.blogtalkradio.com/jeffreylund  Would love to hear from you!

Losing some face created a wonderful life journey? Adversity in the face of change!

I thought I would share a story of adversity and how we can overcome obstacles through one simple process.  Adversity Quotient is a term that was created around the mid to late 1990’s.  The basic thought about Adversity Quotient is that it is your ability to deal with challenges and how you respond to change.  We should grow from the trials in life and not allow them to tear us down.  What struggles have you faced?  Have they deterred you from your purpose in life?  From your goals?

Here is my story.  I had just finished my second year of college at the University of Colorado.  Go BUFFS!  It was the Friday before Memorial Day and I was exercising before going to work that night.  I was also excited because on Memorial Day I was going to have my first official date with a beautiful, wonderful woman I had met during the semester.  I jumped on my touring bike and began my 8 mile ride before getting ready for work.  I was about 8 blocks from home and passing a middle school.  All of a sudden, the front wheel released and the front forks of the bike tore into the asphalt.  I had no time to react and found myself plunging face first into the asphalt.  All of this happened so fast just as change can occur in our lives.  There are times we have no time to prepare for change and find ourselves in a situation we never expected.  When was the last time this happened to you?

My face hits the asphalt and I find myself sliding and flipping down the street.  I somehow ended up on my feet and remember the intense burn on my face and seeing the holes in my wrist area of my arms.  I couldn’t really see out of my right eye.  My immediate thought was that I was going to have an immense scab on my face and would have to deal with that all summer.  I was thinking about how long it would take to heal and how my summer would be ruined with a giant scab on my face.  What about my date?  Have you ever had something hit you so suddenly that you begin to start “crying” about the inconvenience it is going to cause?  Could be worse, so don’t dwell on what it could be and focus on your inner you and strength.  The journey may change.

You know how you were always told not to touch the burner because it was hot and yet you wanted to touch it as a kid?  That was my next move in my journey with this sudden accident, this intense adversity.  I thought about touching the scab and seeing how bad it was going to be.  As I slowly touched my face, my fingers slid on my exposed skull and I found that the right side of my face was somehow missing.  It was mangled and teeth were spewing out of my mouth.  The blood began rushing so incredibly hard and fast that I didn’t know what to do!  I was about to scream and go running in a panic, but I remember what happened next.  I felt as though I was being touched on my right shoulder and heard a voice telling me that I was going to be okay.  I immediately felt calm and walked slowly over to the grass area next to the school as the voice instructed. I heard I was going to be all right and that everything would be okay.  I laid down in the grass face first feeling as state of peace and some teachers rushed to my aid.  Have you ever felt panic during a time of change or adversity?  How did you react?  What were your thoughts?  Did you gain composure?

I was laying there face first bleeding like none other.  The school nurse showed up and somehow I was able to speak a little and I asked how it looked.  She tried to muster up a way to make me feel better.  Her exact words were, “Your nose appears to be broken.”  At this time I knew it was bad and laughed a little.  I told a joke about a teacher who had a broken nose, “Great. Now I’m going to look like Mr…..” I knew some of the people there, but they didn't recognize me.  I told them who I was as best I could with both jaws being broken and blood choking my every word.  My sister showed up as they were able to get a hold of her.  She didn't recognize me and who would.  We never see beneath the skin of those we interact with!  Do you truly know the ones you love?  The ones you interact and work with?  Truly listen to them and care for them and find their inner beauty?  We fail to take time to truly experience the joy in the ones we love.

I had determined that I was going to be okay and accepted the challenge before me.   Panic and fear were not going to overcome me.  We have a choice in any situation that we face in life.  The simple solution is to determine our approach.  We can’t change what has occurred, but we can change the outcomes and the journey.  Your attitude and your ability to face adversity are determined by your approach.  Choose to move forward and know that you can make it.  My story continues and the challenges in the hospital and the following year I am going to continue in my next blog.  I want to share the journey in hopes that it will help you and others truly face your challenges in life and turn them into opportunities. We tend to over-complicate our lives and approaches to adversities in our lives.  Everything in life works out!  Good comes from bad in our lives!  I could have created a crisis or issue in my life, but I chose not to.  We create our issues in our life and therefore are the solution.  Please share this with as many individuals as you can.  I want to continue the journey with thousands of you and share how you and those you love can create a wonderful life in how you face adversity!  What is your approach when faced with difficulty?  What is your level of courage?

Please stay tuned.  Please share your story with me! 

Next blog the story continues…..almost dropped and more!  Could it get worse?

Goals: Can you handle the adversity? 65 Yard Field Goal - $65K in Scholarships!

I had an amazing week last week in the San Luis Valley speaking with high school students about goal setting and careers. I was so inspired by these individuals and their abilities to achieve great things!  I made a public statement that a new goal I have is to kick a 65 yard field goal at a college football game next fall and give a $1000 per yard away in scholarships to some of the students in attendance. Well, accountability would state that if you say it then you have to do it.  So....I am waking up around 5:30 to 5:45 am each day and working out to include weight training and any aerobic exercise I can muster up.  I have cleared the snow in a portion of my front yard in order to practice kicking.  The net goes up and the footballs get kicked!  Thanks to snow blowers I was able to easily clear a portion of my yard!

I noticed my neighbor looking out the window attempting to figure out what I was doing.  To the occasional individual driving by surely is created some sense of curiosity.  You see when we set a goal that seems impossible not only to others but to ourselves as well, we need to know our Adversity Quotient.  The students in the San Luis Valley know what Adversity Quotient is.  Adversity Quotient basically states your ability to handle challenges and change.  Think about how you handle challenges.  Do you find yourself getting "flustered" easily by the smallest of challenges or change?  If so, your quotient is in the low range. Note that you can change your level through your approach.  Begin to change your outlook and visualize the positive in all you do.  Positive in means positive out.  We are the creators of our issues and therefore the creators of doubt.  We can't allow doubt and fear to seep in, we must maintain courage. So, back to the discussion about goals.  Obstacles are always going to make their way into our path.  How we handle them will help determine the outcome.  There is a great amount of snow on the ground and the weather is cold.  I removed the snow and dressed warm.  These obstacles were there, but not going to deter me from my goal. What about those who are questioning my actions? What about those who say I'm too old and that I have no prior experience?  I can't allow those ideals to overcome my mind and way of thinking. I have purpose!  In order to truly accomplish a goal, we must seek the underlying purpose to it.  To just kick a 65 yard field goal is one thing, but to kick it to help others in their quest is another.  The true purpose behind my goal is to show myself and others that I can accomplish something and at the same time help many students financially with their goal to get a college education. When we develop the purpose behind our goals, we develop a strong reason to continue in the face of adversity.  I may or I may not make the 65 yard field goal, but either way I am creating action.  What if I only kick a 35 yard field goal and give away only $35,000? I am getting in shape physically as this is a personal benefit!  I have at least created something that did not exist prior.  Oh, another obstacle is the money.  I still have no idea how I am going to find or create the funds to pull this off.  And, is there any college that will even allow me to kick during their game next fall?  CU? You see, when we create action in our goals we create possibilities.  We can't just sit around wishing or dreaming it, we need to create actions in order to create reactions.  Just the journey alone may inspire others to seek goals they have long been putting off!  Others may be so inspired that they decide to give to the cause and generate action on their behalf to help in the goal we are moving towards.  We need to get up and do something!

Don't be consumed by the "I can't" "You can't" "That's crazy!" and other statements that you and others create.  Write your goal with "will" statements and that will help you create action.  I sat around talking about kicking the field goal, but I needed to create action!  So I did!  Will you create actions in your lives to reach those outcomes you desire?  How do your goals assist others in their lives?   We all  need to take action and find meaning behind our action.  Trust in your abilities and know that all things happen for a reason.  Even if you fail, you create an opportunity to learn and grow.  From all things in life comes good as long as we create action and do not become overwhelmed by the adversities that show up in our paths.  I would love your support in this goal and would love to support you in your endeavors!  Contact me today and lets take on life's journeys together!

Set up the net (the plan), place the ball (the goal) and kick (action)!