This is such an important aspect to our ability to communicate not only with others, but with ourselves! Time never stops and continues moving. We can't stop time, but we can influence it. Do you use the excuse that you don't have time to communicate with someone or take time for yourself? I'm sure you do! Healthy and strong communication takes time. You may need to find some ways to influence your time so that you truly communicate and listen to you, your loved ones, those you work with and even to those you pass by. When you make time to listen, you are using the 'C'-Care and 'O'-observe in order to truly understand the needs of others and of yourself!
Making time seems to be one of the hardest things for us to do. We find ourselves stressed as we never have enough time to complete this task, do our jobs or what have you. If you don't stop and look in the mirror and see yourself, you will find that time becomes more and more of an issue! You are hurting your relationships with your loved ones, your co-workers, yourself and others. You begin to focus on what is not important and begin a journey of stress by creating unbalanced living and relationships.
Here are a couple ways you can build the 'M', the Make Time piece:
1. Create a simple way to plan your week and even plan your social time. If you follow my www.careermadesimple.com site, you know that I continually stress using 15 minutes on Sunday nights to plan your week. In those plans you need to plan "time" for yourself as well. Prioritize your week with a simple strategy of using letters, numbers, colors or symbols that will help you prioritize what you have coming up for the week. Know that there are things that need to be done within a certain amount of time and plan them! Then take those items that are important, but more flexible and move them as needed as the week proceeds! Those lower importance items can be deleted as the week goes on or can be moved to much later dates. Even if you do this, here is where you fail when it comes to Communication! You will prioritize only those work items that are important or school homework and other items like this. You won't prioritize those items like talking to your kids, your spouse, your loved ones, and others as high. Why not? They are the most cherished people you have in your life. They are the greatest treasure you have! What about yourself? You need to make a high priority to spend time on yourself whether it be reading a book, relaxing, exercising....you name it. Listen to what your body is saying and actually schedule some time!
2. Leave things where they need to be left! Here is a simple strategy that will help you improve your communication and open up some time. We tend to carry around issues and taking them into arenas where they don't belong. This creates confusion and takes away from the those things that are important for the interaction you are involved in. You need to open up time by taking on those conflicts or items that you are dwelling on. You have an issue at work for example. The issue at work needs to be discussed with the individuals who are involved at work. When you don't handle that right away, you begin to worry and dwell which takes away from your TIME! How can you make time for your loved ones when you are focused on an issue that doesn't involve them? Why throw it into their arena? Why take away from the time you need for yourself? Why? You need to leave things where they belong and handle them there! This may seem complicated, but it's not. I would love to help you with my latest theory that will help you understand and correct this behavior. You will find that you have more quality time in life to truly communicate! Just leave things where they belong and plan out how you will handle them! I would love to help you with this, so contact me or Karina at khernst@syr.edu!
Please contact me via my website at www.thetajlgroup.com on the Contact Page or through the Live Chat option! If you use the Live Chat option by July 25th, you may receive a copy of my eBook "Quick Guide to Success. Interviewing Strategies." (PDF version). I have 5 copies left to give away.....could be gone in the next hour. Just contact me via the Live Chat option, ask question and I will send it to your email address! Catch me if you can as this FREEBIE is going fast!
Making time seems to be one of the hardest things for us to do. We find ourselves stressed as we never have enough time to complete this task, do our jobs or what have you. If you don't stop and look in the mirror and see yourself, you will find that time becomes more and more of an issue! You are hurting your relationships with your loved ones, your co-workers, yourself and others. You begin to focus on what is not important and begin a journey of stress by creating unbalanced living and relationships.
Here are a couple ways you can build the 'M', the Make Time piece:
1. Create a simple way to plan your week and even plan your social time. If you follow my www.careermadesimple.com site, you know that I continually stress using 15 minutes on Sunday nights to plan your week. In those plans you need to plan "time" for yourself as well. Prioritize your week with a simple strategy of using letters, numbers, colors or symbols that will help you prioritize what you have coming up for the week. Know that there are things that need to be done within a certain amount of time and plan them! Then take those items that are important, but more flexible and move them as needed as the week proceeds! Those lower importance items can be deleted as the week goes on or can be moved to much later dates. Even if you do this, here is where you fail when it comes to Communication! You will prioritize only those work items that are important or school homework and other items like this. You won't prioritize those items like talking to your kids, your spouse, your loved ones, and others as high. Why not? They are the most cherished people you have in your life. They are the greatest treasure you have! What about yourself? You need to make a high priority to spend time on yourself whether it be reading a book, relaxing, exercising....you name it. Listen to what your body is saying and actually schedule some time!
2. Leave things where they need to be left! Here is a simple strategy that will help you improve your communication and open up some time. We tend to carry around issues and taking them into arenas where they don't belong. This creates confusion and takes away from the those things that are important for the interaction you are involved in. You need to open up time by taking on those conflicts or items that you are dwelling on. You have an issue at work for example. The issue at work needs to be discussed with the individuals who are involved at work. When you don't handle that right away, you begin to worry and dwell which takes away from your TIME! How can you make time for your loved ones when you are focused on an issue that doesn't involve them? Why throw it into their arena? Why take away from the time you need for yourself? Why? You need to leave things where they belong and handle them there! This may seem complicated, but it's not. I would love to help you with my latest theory that will help you understand and correct this behavior. You will find that you have more quality time in life to truly communicate! Just leave things where they belong and plan out how you will handle them! I would love to help you with this, so contact me or Karina at khernst@syr.edu!
Please contact me via my website at www.thetajlgroup.com on the Contact Page or through the Live Chat option! If you use the Live Chat option by July 25th, you may receive a copy of my eBook "Quick Guide to Success. Interviewing Strategies." (PDF version). I have 5 copies left to give away.....could be gone in the next hour. Just contact me via the Live Chat option, ask question and I will send it to your email address! Catch me if you can as this FREEBIE is going fast!
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