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We now move into the 6th letter of the communication sequence.  This is the part of the process that involves the 'C' in communication.  'C' as we recall is to Care.  We need to Care first before we communicate in any situation.  Our relationships depend on it, but we also know that Care alone won't create effective communication.  We now travel into the 'N' as we communicate. The 'N' is to Nurture!  To 'Nurture' is to care and encourage the development of someone or something else.  In our communication with others, we need to understand how we can grow the relationship and encourage others in the process.  Unfortunately, we tend to be in interactions with a must win attitude and with the tone of selfishness.  We focus on us in the interaction and relationship and fail to see the other person.   We need to not only infuse our point of view into any interaction, but also find ways to influence and help the other person to grow in the...

I apologize for the long delay in my "communication"!  No excuses.....just got caught up in travels and consulting.  We had covered 'C', 'O', 'M' and 'M' thus far.... we Care, Observe, Make Time and Movement in our communication with others.  So what is this 'U' all about? U: To Understand!  To truly enable healthy communication with ourselves as well as with others, we must find the ability to understand.  We find the definition of understand to be our ability to grasp the meaning of something and its reasonableness.  To understand is to be thoroughly familiar with the character and propensities of something or someone.  My thought is that in communication we must really adhere to the part of the definition that states our need to show a sympathetic or tolerant attitude toward something or someone!  How tolerant are you of others and even of yourself?  What does tolerance mean to you?  A simple definition can be one that states our...

The second 'M' in the word Communicate is "Movement"!  This 'M' is the catalyst to building healthy relationships in life.  You must take action in order to create vibrant, healthy relationships not only with others, but with yourself as well.   We must Care first, then Observe and find ways to Make Time to communicate, but these are not effective unless we "MOVE!" We often visualize and dream about how we want things to be.  We find ourselves wishing and dreaming our lives away as our relationships go nowhere.  This is because we fear "Movement".  Movement causes change and change can cause discomfort.  We are led from the comfort of our thoughts into reality.  Reality can cause fear because we can't truly control all the aspects of it.  There are others who can influence it and distract us from what we desire.  In a dream we can control all aspects and make our relationships so 'fairy tale' like.  We can change this as...

The headlines are booming about Senator Walsh's plagiarism on his War Thesis.  The critics are out and the country is all a "buzz"! What about your life?  Are you truly living your life's purpose, dreams and passions?  Or... Are you just plagiarizing  your life?   We allow ourselves to get conditioned by the media, friends, family, etc, that we fail to actually step out and live our lives.  We criticize those who are different.  We judge those who do things that are out of the supposed "normal"!  What if they are just living their lives and passions?  They seem happy. Are you? You need to stop!  Stop and look at your life.  Evaluate your dreams and passions and discover how to make them a reality.  I was talking to an individual the other day.  She is successful and has much, much more to offer.  As we talked, she discovered that her life is in a rut.  Her life balance is out of balance.  Just as your ve...

We are moving forward in order to create healthier and stronger relationships and communication processes. We had started with the 'C' for Care and then the 'O' for Observe.  Now it's time to move on to the first 'M' for 'Make Time'. This is such an important aspect to our ability to communicate not only with others, but with ourselves!  Time never stops and continues moving.  We can't stop time, but we can influence it.  Do you use the excuse that you don't have time to communicate with someone or take time for yourself?  I'm sure you do!  Healthy and strong communication takes time.  You may need to find some ways to influence your time so that you truly communicate and listen to you, your loved ones, those you work with and even to those you pass by.  When you make time to listen, you are using the 'C'-Care and 'O'-observe in order to truly understand the needs of others and of yourself! Making time seems to be...

STOP!  Time to stop labeling who you are through your behaviors.  Think about this for a second......  Do you label who you are based on your behaviors?  Think about how you approach who you are and how you identify with yourself!  This is just one small aspect to how we create a life that can make us feel trapped, depressed, and going nowhere! In the book "The Prayer of Jabez" by Wilkinson, I found this sentence that makes sense.  "What counts in knowing what you want to be and asking for it!"  When's the last time you even asked yourself for what you want? Learn how to move forward in life and overcome pessimism; The Unrealistic Negativity! Contact us today as we have an awesome program right now….1000 clients who want to make a change!  Simple customized program just for you….can be just one simple process that can help you empower yourself for lifelong happiness….you are the solution!  Contact us today as this is an amazing opportu...

The "O" is part two in this process as we spell out Communicate!  "C" was to care and we understand that we must truly care first.  What about this "O"? "O": Observe.  This is the next step in better understanding those you interact with as you journey through life.  Looking up the definition of "observe" generates two major themes.  The first definition of observe gives us a theme of noticing, perceiving something or someone and to make note as being significant.  Our second definition takes us on the theme that we fulfill or comply with.... a social, legal, religious, ethical or other obligation.  With those two definitions in mind, which one truly is important in our quest to build stronger communication and relationships? The answer to that question actually encompasses both meanings.  When we find that we truly care in a relationship, we then begin to notice the other person(s) and make our interaction significant.  Often tim...

This is going to be an 11 part posting about how to "Communicate"!  Communication is considered the key to successful relationships and interactions with others.   Let's get started with the first "C" in communicate! "C" :  Care!   Within any relationship the first thing one must do is care!  If you were to look up the definition of care, you would find that it simply means to feel concern, attach importance or paying serious attention. You will also find that it means to look after or provide for the needs of another and more.  The big question is then, "Do you care?" For educators, the big key is to care first and curriculum second.  For success in school, the students must feel that they are being cared for and are important.  Often as educators, we can find ourselves so absorbed in the processes and getting through the curriculum that we fail to get to "know" the student.   Finding your base in this type of relationship ...

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The beauty of life is that we were all made with some piece that is unique from those around us.  Instead of celebrating what makes each of us unique, we judge and demean.  We even criticize our own unique qualities instead of finding how these unique qualities could be of service to us and those around us. The definition of unique finds itself as being the only one of its kind and unlike anything else.  The unique qualities of us make us distinctive, special, individual and even idiosyncratic!  What?  Idiosyncratic?  That sounds like idiot with some syncratic in it! Oh...it means distinctive, unique and more.  Whew....for a second there I thought being critical was going to be okay as our uniqueness makes us idiots!  Actually it can if our approach is off!  We need to stop thinking of the uniqueness of others as strange and "scary".  How can we build upon these qualities?  How can we be compassionate? Uniqueness is being limite...

I seem to be focusing on "leaf blowers" this past month!  Thank goodness for the snow yesterday as this will keep the "blowers" from irritating us all!  I wanted to discuss how "blowing" your yard waste around is kind of like how we don't handle issues in life and just keep pushing it around and around.  So...here it goes. I constantly hear the sound of a leaf blower in my neighborhood and around town during my travels.  I notice how the operator just blows the clippings, leaves and other items out in the street, the neighbor's lawn, or whatever seems convenient.  Why don't the operators use the vacuum option and just "suck" up the waste and discard it?  I know there are those two options on these "leaf blowing" tools.  That is how we often approach our "trash" or issues in life.  We tend to just blow them around and expect everyone else to deal with it or clean it up for us.  It doesn't work as illustrated b...

"Is it better to have bright colorful wings that are sweet for all to see or clear wings that produce a sweet product for others to use?" As you probably guessed, the two characters in this question are the butterfly and the bee.  So?  What's the big deal?  Well, in a basic sense (please don't over think this and criticize me...no go ahead and comment) both the butterfly and the bee do the same task.  They help pollinate flowers and such.  But what do they produce for us?  The butterfly can amaze us with it's beauty and often mesmerize as it flies by.  The butterfly can turn a sad moment into a wonderful moment.  The bee often terrifies some as it has the capacity to sting, but at the same time we can enjoy the fruits of its labor.  How does this relate to life?  To you? We become very judgmental in life.  We find individuals being criticized because they may be successful and beautiful. You may think that they don't produce...

With the upcoming show tonight titled, "Advice Night! A Compass to Guide You in Life!", I thought I would briefly talk about this so called "Compass".   This "Compass" is already in our life toolbox, yet we rarely seek that tool.  It is so simple and yet so hard to use. Just like any tool that you use to build something or fix something, it has a specific use as well other uses you might need.  A wrench is used to tighten or loosen bolts, but sometimes you use it as a hammer!  Well, this "Compass" is designed to guide you down the right career, life, leadership or relationship path.  Like anything else in life, there is always a cost.  The "Compass" will point you in the right direction if used properly, or can take you down the wrong path. Like any tool, the tool is only as good as the user.  We often hear that "a computer is only as smart as it user".  This is true in anything we undertake.  We are only human and there...

Please join me this Thursday, April 17th at 9 pm Mountain Time as we discuss the one simple tool you already have in your "life tool box" that can help you discover the right path in life! Please check out this week's show by clicking on the following link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/jeffreylund/2014/04/18/advice-night-a-compass-to-guide-you-in-life#.U0sDgIJUaO0.gmail Life constantly throws "crossroads" at us.  Which path should I take?  What decision should I make? Is this relationship the right one?  What should I do?   There is a simple "Compass" in life that will help you move in the right direction!  Should I take this journey? There will always be unknowns, but at least with a compass we can get a direction!

Adversity never goes away and we continue to face new challenges as we stroll through our lives.  In my story about "losing my face", I left off at the time I exited surgery with thousands of stitches in my face and my jaws wired!  Well.....here we go as we finish up this trial in life.  Actually, it continues to this day! Adversity and pain never truly go away. I was in my hospital room and wanting feverishly to go home.  The trauma of the event made me long for being in a place of comfort.  My friend was visiting me and I explained how I wanted to go home.  I explained to him that if I could get up and go to the bathroom by myself, I could lobby to go home.  Like a 3 year old finally getting the "potty" adventure down.  He helped me to the bathroom door and I entered with such determination to accomplish this task that was once so simple.  After I finished my adventure, I needed to wash my hands.  What is above the sink?  You gu...

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Adversity is always amongst us each and every day.  The level of adversity however is never constant.  We determine the level based on our reactions to situations that occur around us.  When we are in a state of feeling low or even physically ill, the smallest situation can cause us the greatest harm.  This helps establish the fact that we create our obstacles or issues in life.  What is your level of adversity?  How do you handle the challenges that you face?  How do you react when wronged?  Almost dropped? In the last blog I asked the question, “Could it get worse?”   There I was getting carted into the emergency room and being cared for.  The emergency personnel and all who were helping me were amazing.  The hustle and bustle as I was being cared for was an incredible process to behold.  The team carted me to the x-ray room in order to check for any spinal, neck, or other damage.  I didn’t want to be paralyzed ...

I thought I would share a story of adversity and how we can overcome obstacles through one simple process.  Adversity Quotient is a term that was created around the mid to late 1990’s.  The basic thought about Adversity Quotient is that it is your ability to deal with challenges and how you respond to change.  We should grow from the trials in life and not allow them to tear us down.  What struggles have you faced?  Have they deterred you from your purpose in life?  From your goals? Here is my story.  I had just finished my second year of college at the University of Colorado.  Go BUFFS!  It was the Friday before Memorial Day and I was exercising before going to work that night.  I was also excited because on Memorial Day I was going to have my first official date with a beautiful, wonderful woman I had met during the semester.  I jumped on my touring bike and began my 8 mile ride before getting ready for work.  I was abou...

I had an amazing week last week in the San Luis Valley speaking with high school students about goal setting and careers. I was so inspired by these individuals and their abilities to achieve great things!  I made a public statement that a new goal I have is to kick a 65 yard field goal at a college football game next fall and give a $1000 per yard away in scholarships to some of the students in attendance. Well, accountability would state that if you say it then you have to do it.  So....I am waking up around 5:30 to 5:45 am each day and working out to include weight training and any aerobic exercise I can muster up.  I have cleared the snow in a portion of my front yard in order to practice kicking.  The net goes up and the footballs get kicked!  Thanks to snow blowers I was able to easily clear a portion of my yard! I noticed my neighbor looking out the window attempting to figure out what I was doing.  To the occasional individual driving b...