Look at your life up to this point. Where are you in life at this moment? Where you are today is in fact determined by what you have done in the past. You have worked to get yourself to this point in life through your prior decisions. Think about your interviews that you have had. One central question is to tell them a little about yourself. You end up telling them what you have done, where you have been and why you are interviewing for the position. Look at your life. Ask yourself to tell yourself a little about yourself. You are basically interviewing for the next chapter in your life.
Our life can be looked at as one big interview process. We are constantly evaluating ourselves, working through our current situations and seeking answers in order to move forward. We put ourselves in situations and then make decisions just like we answer situational questions in interviews. Our life is in actuality one interview after another in hopes of building a better life and along the way a perfect career. We are working towards something and always looking for that life promotion or opportunity. Rarely do we see individuals just sitting there and taking what comes at them with no effort at all. Most are seeking ways to improve their life situation or at the very least maintain it.
Our life interview is with those around us and even within ourselves. Keeping it simple in life is very important in order to reach those optimum goals that we have. In my book "Tennis Everyone! An Empowering Way to Improve Your Interactions with Others," I use the concept of the Simple Set in order to illustrate this point. Our life interactions are constant and we need to simplify this process. From the book: "In order to be successful in your interactions through life, you need to keep it simple and understand what you are facing." "We tend to over think life when we are playing in one of our games." "Keeping it simple is really putting things into perspective." and "We should not worry about what we cannot control and therefore we should not be in our interactions to control others." Look at your life as an interview process and that you are interviewing for the job of a lifetime. Searching for that ultimate career, means interviewing who you are and those around you. Your interactions can help determine your outcomes to successful career and life attainment.
In order to win that ultimate interview in life, we must avoid mind control. For a screenplay that I wrote concerning multi-level marketing as a base platform, I researched the concept of mind control and then looked at this concept in our lives. From my book as well: "Through researching multi-level marketing, I came across the concept of mind control. This applies to life daily ......" "The easy definition is one of persuasion." "The idea is to take away a person's conviction and replace it with a set of alternative beliefs." and "We are constantly challenged in our interactions with others to follow their beliefs and change ours." How can you obtain that ultimate career and life? Know what you are interviewing for. I remember the basic saying, "If something is too good to be true, then it probably is." Think about the things in life that have distracted you from your life dream or even from going after that prized job or career. We often fail to truly research or think through what we hear. How many times have you been talked out of something? I remember wanting to be a "water lawyer" and being talked out of it by an attorney and a judge. Wow! Look at the demand for water. How busy would I be? When we go into a job interview, we should be researching the job in every detail. Is this the right job for me just because others say it is? Be careful. In my latest ebook:"Quick Guide to Success" -Interviewing Strategies, I discuss briefly the importance of research. Daily as you interact with others and even yourself, be careful not to just take things at face value. Keep control of your mind and find the answers you truly deserve to know and understand.
I write about this often, always ask the question in everything you do in life: "Does this make sense?" Is what I am doing right now make sense? This is the central question you should ask yourself when in interactions with others or when you are facing life's challenges or making life decisions. I love conversing with others around the topic of strengths and weaknesses. We tend to focus on our lack of abilities as weaknesses and immediately give up on a goal or idea. In my book I discuss the concept of "Having a weakness is not a bad thing, it is a natural thing." When we interview for a job, we are most likely going to be asked for our strengths and weaknesses. All we need to do is to identify those things we need to work on and develop them. In my ebook as well, I discuss how to answer those questions in a way that makes the interviewer(s) see your potential. When you look at your life, build upon your strengths and utilize them to the fullest while working on ways to improve those things you falter at. We are not perfect and no one is or ever will be. Understand that we all have things we need to work on, but do not forget about those things that you are already great at!
You are an amazing person. As you live life, know that you are interviewing for a lifetime just like when you interview for a job or career move. Apply simple interview skills to life and always ask yourself the one essential question, "Does this make sense?" When you begin to ask that question and truly evaluate where you are, your life will become a wonderful adventure and you will maintain your own mind. See where you want to be in life and career, and then accept it when it comes to you. If you truly answer those questions in life and truly seek the answers, you will begin to realize how wonderful you are and will achieve all that you seek. Trust me, no trust yourself. Believe in what you have and build upon what you need. Please contact me for any other questions you may have or read my book and ebook as they are designed to help you discover your true life understanding.
Monday, November 25, 2013
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Analysis of two quotes that will spark your career and life!
This week the analysis of the two quotes presented last week:
"Judge less and live more!"
"I don't believe in failure, only the lack of action."
The two quotes are really quite simply pointing in the same direction. How much time do you spend focused on what is going on around you instead of your dream, your career, your life? We tend to judge what is going on around us instead of focusing on what we are seeking. You have heard it before that if you believe you can achieve anything, you will achieve it. Well, stop for a second and see what you have achieved. We need to break down the quotes and see how they in fact reflect the reality of success.
Energy is the key component to everything you do. It takes energy to think, eat, run, scream, write, use the computer, breath, to do anything. When we spend our time "judging" others, we are expending energy that could be used to help us achieve our goals. Why spend energy focusing on what you feel others are doing "wrong", when you can spend your energy focused on doing what is "right"? Many successful individuals throughout history believed you should not waste the"gray matter" of your brain by memorizing items you could easily find in a book, newspaper, from someone else or in today's environment, the internet. “Never memorize something that you can look up.” Albert Einstein. Why expend great amounts of energy seeking answers when you can quickly look up or just ask? Why not save that energy to create a solution to what you are working on? Look at your career. You work with individuals and of course will most likely become frustrated with them from time to time. You can't directly control them or their attitude, but you can affect them. What do I mean by this? Your actions, attitude and communication can directly affect them and in a sense "control" their future behavior. If you respond negatively to the individual or "judge" them in this manner, then their response will be a negative response or at least they will continue the behavior that is bothering you. Change your approach. Try responding to that behavior with a supportive approach and a questioning approach and see what happens. When you "hit the ball back in their court", then they have to play it.
I see this all the time in action. I had three conversations today with individuals asking, "What Now?" to their individual issues. In all the cases there was a common theme that dealt with the issue of others' and their actions that were causing distractions in the lives of these three individuals. In the conversations, I was hearing the "judging" concept being communicated. There was so much energy being consumed by the complaining, focusing and giving power to the actions and comments made by others, than there was seeking the outcomes they desired. One definition of "to judge" is to form an opinion. ( According to http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/judge : to form an estimate or evaluation of; especially : to form a negative opinion about <shouldn't judge him because of his accent> to hold as an opinion : guess, think <I judge she knew what she was doing> ) Here is a simple truth about us humans, we are quick to form an opinion without looking at all the facts or factors involved. Why do students in schools act different than each other? Well, what do they bring with them from home or the environment they live in? How can we truly "judge" or form an opinion about someone without knowing all the "baggage" they are carrying? Listen at your place of work to all the complaining and back talk. I'm sure I have discussed this before. "Did you see what so and so did?" It can get overwhelming and begin to consume your use of your time. You become so involved with the "gossip" and judging, that you fail to complete your tasks and perform to your expected performance. You take work home, you work late, you get stressed and this overflows into the other aspects of your life. Stop. Don't spend the time judging, spend the time living and focusing on the positive that life and others have to offer. Try giving positive feedback when someone who frustrates you does something wonderful instead of reinforcing their negative behavior by judging.
We create failure in our lives as those around us only reinforce it. We tend to sped so much energy blaming and pointing instead of looking at the piece of truth in someone's criticism of us. Remember that others' perceptions are their realities. If they perceive us as this or that, it becomes their reality. Just as we perceive someone as something and we "judge". Look at the energy we spend trying to find blame in situations instead of accepting that something failed and we need to fix it. Our politicians are a great example of this concept. They are so busy blaming each other for the failures, that they fail to spend energy on fixing the problems. Look at history and you will see that the problems have stayed the same and only the technology has changed. If we would learn to truly find the reality of situations and others, we could then solve most of our issues. We would more easily collaborate and solve issues instead of creating more issues. Look at meetings. Meetings can become a huge waste of energy and time. We have a meeting to discuss an issue. Then from that meeting we create committees and then more meetings. From those come more meetings, committees, presentations and them more meetings. So, we then see failure due to the lack of productive action. This is just like our careers and lives. We dream or see this, then we contemplate with ourselves and others, then we doubt our abilities, then we lack trust, and then we accept it as that's the way it is. Ok, lack of action just produced failure. I took over a job where there had been six different leaders ahead of me in five years. I came in with a vision and looked at the data. I had to look at what was right for the good of the organization and decided I would rather go down in flames doing what was right instead of doing what had been done before. Guess what, I had five years of leadership in that organization until I decided it was time for me to leave. Was it easy? No. Was it right? I would hope so as performance and results improved. Was it perfect? No, as nothing ever is. My friends. Create action to create success. I work with so many individuals with great ideas, but they fail to act on them. They don't act because they assume they will lose their job, get reprimanded, fail, or who knows what. Guess what? I had failures, successes and even caused some times that I maybe got reprimanded. Through it all, I made a positive difference. Begin to take action in your life and career and see the results. Is there risk? Yes. There is risk in everything you do. When you brush your teeth, you could choke. Who knows? Decide to act instead of react and watch success take over your career and life.
Simplify your career and life. What to do now? Set up a process where you review the week ahead. Create a priority list of what you need to get done each day. Look at those individuals or situations that are causing you stress. Instead of judging, look for solutions that you can use during the week. Maybe you can create some opportunities to help direct them to find answers they are seeking. What if you took fifteen minutes in the beginning of the week and had a conversation with that person on what you wanted to accomplish that week? Could you put in their mind where your focus is and alleviate interruptions? Just a thought. Share your thoughts, ideas, expectations and provide a road map of where you are headed and this will illustrate your action and alleviate failures. Trust me. Ensure that you know yourself where you are headed and set a positive tone to the journey ahead. You will begin to observe what is coming and become proactive instead of reactive. Actions speak louder than words, so show the world your actions and they will respond. Be positive and expect positive results. Take some risks and accept the small failures in order to create the huge successes. Trust me as it works.
Feel free to contact me and share your issues and I will quickly give you a simple solution to try. That's my challenge!
"Judge less and live more!"
"I don't believe in failure, only the lack of action."
The two quotes are really quite simply pointing in the same direction. How much time do you spend focused on what is going on around you instead of your dream, your career, your life? We tend to judge what is going on around us instead of focusing on what we are seeking. You have heard it before that if you believe you can achieve anything, you will achieve it. Well, stop for a second and see what you have achieved. We need to break down the quotes and see how they in fact reflect the reality of success.
Energy is the key component to everything you do. It takes energy to think, eat, run, scream, write, use the computer, breath, to do anything. When we spend our time "judging" others, we are expending energy that could be used to help us achieve our goals. Why spend energy focusing on what you feel others are doing "wrong", when you can spend your energy focused on doing what is "right"? Many successful individuals throughout history believed you should not waste the"gray matter" of your brain by memorizing items you could easily find in a book, newspaper, from someone else or in today's environment, the internet. “Never memorize something that you can look up.” Albert Einstein. Why expend great amounts of energy seeking answers when you can quickly look up or just ask? Why not save that energy to create a solution to what you are working on? Look at your career. You work with individuals and of course will most likely become frustrated with them from time to time. You can't directly control them or their attitude, but you can affect them. What do I mean by this? Your actions, attitude and communication can directly affect them and in a sense "control" their future behavior. If you respond negatively to the individual or "judge" them in this manner, then their response will be a negative response or at least they will continue the behavior that is bothering you. Change your approach. Try responding to that behavior with a supportive approach and a questioning approach and see what happens. When you "hit the ball back in their court", then they have to play it.
I see this all the time in action. I had three conversations today with individuals asking, "What Now?" to their individual issues. In all the cases there was a common theme that dealt with the issue of others' and their actions that were causing distractions in the lives of these three individuals. In the conversations, I was hearing the "judging" concept being communicated. There was so much energy being consumed by the complaining, focusing and giving power to the actions and comments made by others, than there was seeking the outcomes they desired. One definition of "to judge" is to form an opinion. ( According to http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/judge : to form an estimate or evaluation of; especially : to form a negative opinion about <shouldn't judge him because of his accent> to hold as an opinion : guess, think <I judge she knew what she was doing> ) Here is a simple truth about us humans, we are quick to form an opinion without looking at all the facts or factors involved. Why do students in schools act different than each other? Well, what do they bring with them from home or the environment they live in? How can we truly "judge" or form an opinion about someone without knowing all the "baggage" they are carrying? Listen at your place of work to all the complaining and back talk. I'm sure I have discussed this before. "Did you see what so and so did?" It can get overwhelming and begin to consume your use of your time. You become so involved with the "gossip" and judging, that you fail to complete your tasks and perform to your expected performance. You take work home, you work late, you get stressed and this overflows into the other aspects of your life. Stop. Don't spend the time judging, spend the time living and focusing on the positive that life and others have to offer. Try giving positive feedback when someone who frustrates you does something wonderful instead of reinforcing their negative behavior by judging.
We create failure in our lives as those around us only reinforce it. We tend to sped so much energy blaming and pointing instead of looking at the piece of truth in someone's criticism of us. Remember that others' perceptions are their realities. If they perceive us as this or that, it becomes their reality. Just as we perceive someone as something and we "judge". Look at the energy we spend trying to find blame in situations instead of accepting that something failed and we need to fix it. Our politicians are a great example of this concept. They are so busy blaming each other for the failures, that they fail to spend energy on fixing the problems. Look at history and you will see that the problems have stayed the same and only the technology has changed. If we would learn to truly find the reality of situations and others, we could then solve most of our issues. We would more easily collaborate and solve issues instead of creating more issues. Look at meetings. Meetings can become a huge waste of energy and time. We have a meeting to discuss an issue. Then from that meeting we create committees and then more meetings. From those come more meetings, committees, presentations and them more meetings. So, we then see failure due to the lack of productive action. This is just like our careers and lives. We dream or see this, then we contemplate with ourselves and others, then we doubt our abilities, then we lack trust, and then we accept it as that's the way it is. Ok, lack of action just produced failure. I took over a job where there had been six different leaders ahead of me in five years. I came in with a vision and looked at the data. I had to look at what was right for the good of the organization and decided I would rather go down in flames doing what was right instead of doing what had been done before. Guess what, I had five years of leadership in that organization until I decided it was time for me to leave. Was it easy? No. Was it right? I would hope so as performance and results improved. Was it perfect? No, as nothing ever is. My friends. Create action to create success. I work with so many individuals with great ideas, but they fail to act on them. They don't act because they assume they will lose their job, get reprimanded, fail, or who knows what. Guess what? I had failures, successes and even caused some times that I maybe got reprimanded. Through it all, I made a positive difference. Begin to take action in your life and career and see the results. Is there risk? Yes. There is risk in everything you do. When you brush your teeth, you could choke. Who knows? Decide to act instead of react and watch success take over your career and life.
Simplify your career and life. What to do now? Set up a process where you review the week ahead. Create a priority list of what you need to get done each day. Look at those individuals or situations that are causing you stress. Instead of judging, look for solutions that you can use during the week. Maybe you can create some opportunities to help direct them to find answers they are seeking. What if you took fifteen minutes in the beginning of the week and had a conversation with that person on what you wanted to accomplish that week? Could you put in their mind where your focus is and alleviate interruptions? Just a thought. Share your thoughts, ideas, expectations and provide a road map of where you are headed and this will illustrate your action and alleviate failures. Trust me. Ensure that you know yourself where you are headed and set a positive tone to the journey ahead. You will begin to observe what is coming and become proactive instead of reactive. Actions speak louder than words, so show the world your actions and they will respond. Be positive and expect positive results. Take some risks and accept the small failures in order to create the huge successes. Trust me as it works.
Feel free to contact me and share your issues and I will quickly give you a simple solution to try. That's my challenge!
Friday, November 15, 2013
Two new quotes to ponder!
My two newest quotes that I would like to ponder:
"Judge less and live more!" Jeffrey Lund 2013
"I don't believe in failure, only the lack of action." Jeffrey Lund 2013
Okay. I wrote these based off of a few things that happened this past week. I am going to write about these quotes and how you can use them to help with your life and career. How to understand your actions and the results they create. I met with an individual this week and discussed how today determines tomorrow.
Are you interested in my thoughts? I am going to publish my thoughts this next week on these two quotes. Please think about them and make some notes. Contact me if you wish with some thoughts and I will add to my next post. Together lets find out how this can help you in your career. I know how it can, but want you to think it through first. Enjoy the quotes and I hope they make you think.
"Judge less and live more!" Jeffrey Lund 2013
"I don't believe in failure, only the lack of action." Jeffrey Lund 2013
Okay. I wrote these based off of a few things that happened this past week. I am going to write about these quotes and how you can use them to help with your life and career. How to understand your actions and the results they create. I met with an individual this week and discussed how today determines tomorrow.
Are you interested in my thoughts? I am going to publish my thoughts this next week on these two quotes. Please think about them and make some notes. Contact me if you wish with some thoughts and I will add to my next post. Together lets find out how this can help you in your career. I know how it can, but want you to think it through first. Enjoy the quotes and I hope they make you think.
Monday, November 11, 2013
What's holding you back from living your passion and your dream career?
In my last entry I wrote about the question of what would you do if you could wake up everyday and do what you wanted or enjoyed. In this section I want to discuss the answer to what is holding you back. This seems to be one of the biggest questions I receive about "What Now?" It can be discouraging when there seems to be an endless process of not enjoying life to the fullest. How many people do you know who always dream about Friday? They hate Mondays? They wish their lives away? What if they savored each day and enjoyed their life and career to the fullest? What about you?
What is holding you back? We can start with the smaller items such as education, skills, experience or a lack of network. The issue comes in when we need to determine which of these is really the issue that is holding us back from obtaining our ultimate career or lifestyle we seek. Research is the key to solving these smaller issues. Take some time right now if you are seeking that ability to wake up everyday with that career you enjoy and find what you believe you lack in obtaining this dream. Is it education? Maybe your dream career requires a certificate, so what is it going to take to obtain that piece of paper? Often times we are convinced through others, advertisements and what have you, that we have to have an education to accomplish anything. I would like to challenge that notion a little. If you chose not to obtain that college education or some other level of education, it does not necessarily mean that you cannot obtain your dream life and career. You may have to work a little harder or be a little more patient, but you can obtain it. I know several individuals who are happy in life with what they do for a living who have no college education. These individuals make over six figures and enjoy life. Now, it may have taken a little longer to get there or maybe some other obstacles, but they made it. I often instruct individuals on how they can interview and obtain a job without having all the required skills and experience. Please check our my ebook: "Quick Guide to Success" - Interviewing Strategies. We tend to sell ourselves short and fail to take the risk. Everything in life involves a cost or risk of some sort. Nothing in life is for free as there is always a reaction or cost involved. So, you lack the entire list of required skills or experience to get that dream career. Why not just go after it? Take a chance and see what happens. If you attempt to get the career and fail, then you learn from the experience and then you must try again. Just because we fail at something the first time, doesn't mean we will fail the next. We need to look at these challenges differently. Gain experience and education by learning from your failures instead of quitting. Nothing in life comes easy or without a cost. I keep mentioning cost. Think of opportunity cost: "What will you give up today for something tomorrow or what will you give up tomorrow for something today?" There is a cost in all we do. I think I had mentioned in another post that what we do today determines our tomorrow. If you do nothing today, most likely nothing will happen tomorrow to help you reach your dream life and career. You must take action and accept failure. How else will you know what education, skills, experience or network you lack? The term network is crucial to obtaining that opportunity to wake up every day and do what you want and enjoy. You need to ask, question and seek those who can help you. What do I mean? Share what you are out to accomplish and ask for help. As you share and ask family, friends, business acquaintances, peers, and whomever, they begin to share a network of individuals for you to connect with. LinkedIn for example is a way for business professionals to connect and build a network of individuals to help them find success. So, build your own. Seek out those who are successful in life doing what you want to do. I had my students find individuals who were successful in areas of interest of my students. You should have seen some of the responses my students received. I had a student who wanted to be a dolphin trainer for Sea World. She wrote to someone associated with Bush Gardens and Sea World. Her letter was forwarded to someone within the company and she received a lengthy letter outlining what it would take. It takes college, field work and then a very competitive process to make it as a dolphin trainer at Sea World. My student was given the schools to attend, the courses to take, the individuals to contact, and the process to compete. She asked and received. I believe their is a bible verse about asking and you shall receive. All you need to do is ask. I love my career helping others in life. All you need to do is contact me and ask, and we together can find your path to success. Just ask. The worst you will hear is no. Build a network and truly see what you need to do to reach that desired life and career.
Okay. Now a bigger answer to the your question about what is holding you back. Money? Okay. We can discuss money as a larger issue holding you back. It seems as though money tends to control our lives. We get told that we must do this and that and need to have a steady job in order to live life. We get ourselves caught up in this contract, this material good and thinking that money will solve our problems. The problem becomes us working for money instead of life fulfillment. "I will work this job for a few years and then save up to go to school." Oh right! Those few years become twenty and that school never happens. Before you know it, you are strapped down with bills and trapped in the paycheck cycle. Am I right? Look back at your life. Think about where you are today and how you got there. Hey, I gave up on my dream for many, many years because of a paycheck. I know. I know. Our focus on life becomes money. We dream about and play the lottery for that big payoff. We tell ourselves that we can't afford to quit this job or give up that lifestyle. Sure, we need money in our society to live, but to truly live is to do what we enjoy knowing that the money will come. It takes a leap of faith to drop money from our thinking and put life success in the front of our heads. I'm not saying quit your job and do what you want. I'm saying begin to plan, budget and focus on your dream. You may have to work that "job" for awhile, but it should only be a means to your dream and not a means to the end of life! What is the real obstacle holding you back? What makes you think money is the issue or lack of education, skills or experience?
The true answer lies in one simple word: FEAR. Fear is what is truly holding us back from obtaining that life and career we truly seek. Fear of the unknown, failure and even success. Money really isn't the issue, but the fear of lack of money. How will I pay my bills? What will I do if I fail? These are just a few of the questions that probably pass through your thoughts. We lack trust in our abilities, faith in our resilience and belief in what we can accomplish. Remember how I said that what we do today determines our tomorrow? Fear is what dominates our today and keeps our tomorrow from happening! How do you control fear? One option is to look at courage. I think courage means our ability to face the unknown and uncertainty without being overcome by fear or losing sight of our purpose. I looked up a definition of fear as:
What is holding you back? We can start with the smaller items such as education, skills, experience or a lack of network. The issue comes in when we need to determine which of these is really the issue that is holding us back from obtaining our ultimate career or lifestyle we seek. Research is the key to solving these smaller issues. Take some time right now if you are seeking that ability to wake up everyday with that career you enjoy and find what you believe you lack in obtaining this dream. Is it education? Maybe your dream career requires a certificate, so what is it going to take to obtain that piece of paper? Often times we are convinced through others, advertisements and what have you, that we have to have an education to accomplish anything. I would like to challenge that notion a little. If you chose not to obtain that college education or some other level of education, it does not necessarily mean that you cannot obtain your dream life and career. You may have to work a little harder or be a little more patient, but you can obtain it. I know several individuals who are happy in life with what they do for a living who have no college education. These individuals make over six figures and enjoy life. Now, it may have taken a little longer to get there or maybe some other obstacles, but they made it. I often instruct individuals on how they can interview and obtain a job without having all the required skills and experience. Please check our my ebook: "Quick Guide to Success" - Interviewing Strategies. We tend to sell ourselves short and fail to take the risk. Everything in life involves a cost or risk of some sort. Nothing in life is for free as there is always a reaction or cost involved. So, you lack the entire list of required skills or experience to get that dream career. Why not just go after it? Take a chance and see what happens. If you attempt to get the career and fail, then you learn from the experience and then you must try again. Just because we fail at something the first time, doesn't mean we will fail the next. We need to look at these challenges differently. Gain experience and education by learning from your failures instead of quitting. Nothing in life comes easy or without a cost. I keep mentioning cost. Think of opportunity cost: "What will you give up today for something tomorrow or what will you give up tomorrow for something today?" There is a cost in all we do. I think I had mentioned in another post that what we do today determines our tomorrow. If you do nothing today, most likely nothing will happen tomorrow to help you reach your dream life and career. You must take action and accept failure. How else will you know what education, skills, experience or network you lack? The term network is crucial to obtaining that opportunity to wake up every day and do what you want and enjoy. You need to ask, question and seek those who can help you. What do I mean? Share what you are out to accomplish and ask for help. As you share and ask family, friends, business acquaintances, peers, and whomever, they begin to share a network of individuals for you to connect with. LinkedIn for example is a way for business professionals to connect and build a network of individuals to help them find success. So, build your own. Seek out those who are successful in life doing what you want to do. I had my students find individuals who were successful in areas of interest of my students. You should have seen some of the responses my students received. I had a student who wanted to be a dolphin trainer for Sea World. She wrote to someone associated with Bush Gardens and Sea World. Her letter was forwarded to someone within the company and she received a lengthy letter outlining what it would take. It takes college, field work and then a very competitive process to make it as a dolphin trainer at Sea World. My student was given the schools to attend, the courses to take, the individuals to contact, and the process to compete. She asked and received. I believe their is a bible verse about asking and you shall receive. All you need to do is ask. I love my career helping others in life. All you need to do is contact me and ask, and we together can find your path to success. Just ask. The worst you will hear is no. Build a network and truly see what you need to do to reach that desired life and career.
Okay. Now a bigger answer to the your question about what is holding you back. Money? Okay. We can discuss money as a larger issue holding you back. It seems as though money tends to control our lives. We get told that we must do this and that and need to have a steady job in order to live life. We get ourselves caught up in this contract, this material good and thinking that money will solve our problems. The problem becomes us working for money instead of life fulfillment. "I will work this job for a few years and then save up to go to school." Oh right! Those few years become twenty and that school never happens. Before you know it, you are strapped down with bills and trapped in the paycheck cycle. Am I right? Look back at your life. Think about where you are today and how you got there. Hey, I gave up on my dream for many, many years because of a paycheck. I know. I know. Our focus on life becomes money. We dream about and play the lottery for that big payoff. We tell ourselves that we can't afford to quit this job or give up that lifestyle. Sure, we need money in our society to live, but to truly live is to do what we enjoy knowing that the money will come. It takes a leap of faith to drop money from our thinking and put life success in the front of our heads. I'm not saying quit your job and do what you want. I'm saying begin to plan, budget and focus on your dream. You may have to work that "job" for awhile, but it should only be a means to your dream and not a means to the end of life! What is the real obstacle holding you back? What makes you think money is the issue or lack of education, skills or experience?
The true answer lies in one simple word: FEAR. Fear is what is truly holding us back from obtaining that life and career we truly seek. Fear of the unknown, failure and even success. Money really isn't the issue, but the fear of lack of money. How will I pay my bills? What will I do if I fail? These are just a few of the questions that probably pass through your thoughts. We lack trust in our abilities, faith in our resilience and belief in what we can accomplish. Remember how I said that what we do today determines our tomorrow? Fear is what dominates our today and keeps our tomorrow from happening! How do you control fear? One option is to look at courage. I think courage means our ability to face the unknown and uncertainty without being overcome by fear or losing sight of our purpose. I looked up a definition of fear as:
Definition of fear (n)
fear
[ feer ]
1. feeling of anxiety: an unpleasant feeling of anxiety or apprehension caused by the presence or anticipation of danger
2. frightening thought: an idea, thought, or other entity that causes feelings of fear
3. reverence: respect or awe for somebody or something
Thanks Bing Dictionary! Look at the synonyms! That's us. I bet when you think about your dream life and career, you doubt and fill with anxiety. I bet you do. The first things that come to mind are "can't" statements. "I can't afford to do this!" "I can't do this I'm not good enough!" On and on. Think about all the can't statements in your life. They were and are derivatives of fear! Oh, I bet you also had the "what if" question statements! "What if I fail?" "What will people think about me giving up a job!" "What if I make a mistake?" Sure. Tell yourself these things. They are all from fear. Think about what you are told by others as well. "You can't do that!" "What are you thinking?" "What if you fail? You can't get your job back!" Just scream back, "I don't want my job back!" We need to take control of our own thinking and minds. Plan out your quest for life fulfillment and living that career. Sure, you can't just quit tomorrow and not expect to have some fear. Some fear is okay. If you have ever played competitive sports, I bet you got nervous before a game. That nervousness can be real helpful as it helps us focus on the task at hand and readies us for the challenge. It is the same with your life and career moves. There is going to be some sense of fear as there is always going to be some element of risk. Learn to control your fear and trust! Trust in you and overcome that fear with true courage. Know that you may fail, but that you can get up and try again. You aren't going to go anywhere in life without taking some sort of risk. Do you want to live the dream life and career? Or, are you satisfied living for the paycheck?
Okay. Now you need to work on your fear and begin your adventure to true life fulfillment. What do you do? Well, keep it simple. Plan and plan some more. Research the reality of your dream and know that you will not have all you need at the beginning. Begin to not accept "no" as any part of the answer to your quest. Know that there will be failures and that one of the best parts of this quest in the journey itself. Learn from your failures and successes as well as from others. Seek answers to your questions and develop a network. You can't get there if you aren't willing to try. It is going to take action to reach your goal and not just wishing it so.
My challenge to you: "Challenge me! Send me your life and career dream. Ask me what I think your first step is. Ask me if I think it is a reality! Come on and take that first step. I will challenge you to live your life to fullest!" That's my challenge. Know that I won't laugh at you or discourage you, but challenge you. Come on......you afraid to contact me? You afraid of some accountability? Contact me at thetajlgroup@gmail com. What's holding you back?
Okay. Now you need to work on your fear and begin your adventure to true life fulfillment. What do you do? Well, keep it simple. Plan and plan some more. Research the reality of your dream and know that you will not have all you need at the beginning. Begin to not accept "no" as any part of the answer to your quest. Know that there will be failures and that one of the best parts of this quest in the journey itself. Learn from your failures and successes as well as from others. Seek answers to your questions and develop a network. You can't get there if you aren't willing to try. It is going to take action to reach your goal and not just wishing it so.
My challenge to you: "Challenge me! Send me your life and career dream. Ask me what I think your first step is. Ask me if I think it is a reality! Come on and take that first step. I will challenge you to live your life to fullest!" That's my challenge. Know that I won't laugh at you or discourage you, but challenge you. Come on......you afraid to contact me? You afraid of some accountability? Contact me at thetajlgroup@gmail com. What's holding you back?
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
What would you do if you could wake up everyday and do whatever you wanted?
What would you do?
How often do you wake up and dread heading off to work? What would you change if you could change something? Think back to when you were a child. What was it that you thought you would be when you grew up? Did you make it? Most did not seek that path they dreamed about as a child, but found that life took them on a different path. There are some who wake up everyday enjoying what they do and have even fulfilled their childhood dream. But, what about you?
I remember giving a guest lecture to a marketing class at the University of Northern Colorado some years ago. I asked the students what their degrees were going to be. Since it was an upper level marketing class, most were on track for a marketing degree of some sort. This class happened to be a market analysis course and I assumed many were going to work in some type of marketing firm or what have you. I then asked them to think of their hobby. I observed some puzzled looks on their faces, so I asked them to think of what they enjoyed doing. It was interesting to see the looks on their faces and reactions to that question. There was a young woman in the front row and I decided to challenge her. My questions to her were, "What is your degree going to be in?" Her reply was in the nature of marketing. I then asked her, "What is your hobby?" Her immediate response was, "Camping." I immediately yelled out, "Great. You are going to work for the marketing firm or directly with the marketing operations for REI." Her response with a tone of disgust was, "No!" I decided to ask her why not and she refused to answer. I explained that she could wake up each work day using her degree and working within the area of her life's interest. She had no desire to do such a thing. Her thoughts were around how much money should would make. My response was that money would not make her happy and that the money will come when we live doing what we love.
So, why are you doing what you are doing in life for a job or career? Was it the money or was it something else? I want to save this piece for my next blog, so think about it. My challenge for you now is to have you think about what you would do if you could wake up and do what you wanted each day for a living. Now, keep your ideas within reason as some things are illegal and most likely immoral. Okay. What would it be and why? Take some time to answer that and visualize what your life would be like. Would you wake up everyday working in the forest or traveling the comedy circuit? What would it be? Look inside yourself and see what it is that would make you truly happy and provide you with satisfaction. Make sure that you see how it would serve others as well as yourself.
So, your task is to write out what your life would look like if you lived your passion. Once you have written it out, then you need to look at your skill set and resources that you possess that could help you achieve that passion. Do you need some more education? Do you need a mentor? What skills do you have and what skills do you need to build? Lay it all out there and see what it looks like. Once you have all that in place, the next step is to plan out the next 30 days and create some actions that will help you research the reality of what you are seeking. Now dream it! Think about it and talk about it with others. Share your thoughts with your family, friends or whomever you feel would listen. Most importantly, listen to yourself. Monitor how your attitude and mood changes when you think about this dream. Check your pulse as you talk about it and share with others. What changes do you see in you? What happens when you go to your current job? How's your attitude now? Do you see the potential in what you have or do you see the need for change? Wow! Ready to challenge yourself? Need to throw some ideas out there or find a network to seek more information about what you seek? Start asking around and truly challenge yourself to find the reality in your life's passion.
Need some help or want some feedback? Contact me or use the Social Forum on my website to start a discussion. You never know who might have the answer which helps you take one more step toward living life to the fullest full of joy and happiness. You have one life to live, so explore the possibility of living your hobby, your passion.
In my next blog, I am going to ask the question and answer it, "What's holding you back from living your passion?" Can't wait to share and hear from you.
How often do you wake up and dread heading off to work? What would you change if you could change something? Think back to when you were a child. What was it that you thought you would be when you grew up? Did you make it? Most did not seek that path they dreamed about as a child, but found that life took them on a different path. There are some who wake up everyday enjoying what they do and have even fulfilled their childhood dream. But, what about you?
I remember giving a guest lecture to a marketing class at the University of Northern Colorado some years ago. I asked the students what their degrees were going to be. Since it was an upper level marketing class, most were on track for a marketing degree of some sort. This class happened to be a market analysis course and I assumed many were going to work in some type of marketing firm or what have you. I then asked them to think of their hobby. I observed some puzzled looks on their faces, so I asked them to think of what they enjoyed doing. It was interesting to see the looks on their faces and reactions to that question. There was a young woman in the front row and I decided to challenge her. My questions to her were, "What is your degree going to be in?" Her reply was in the nature of marketing. I then asked her, "What is your hobby?" Her immediate response was, "Camping." I immediately yelled out, "Great. You are going to work for the marketing firm or directly with the marketing operations for REI." Her response with a tone of disgust was, "No!" I decided to ask her why not and she refused to answer. I explained that she could wake up each work day using her degree and working within the area of her life's interest. She had no desire to do such a thing. Her thoughts were around how much money should would make. My response was that money would not make her happy and that the money will come when we live doing what we love.
So, why are you doing what you are doing in life for a job or career? Was it the money or was it something else? I want to save this piece for my next blog, so think about it. My challenge for you now is to have you think about what you would do if you could wake up and do what you wanted each day for a living. Now, keep your ideas within reason as some things are illegal and most likely immoral. Okay. What would it be and why? Take some time to answer that and visualize what your life would be like. Would you wake up everyday working in the forest or traveling the comedy circuit? What would it be? Look inside yourself and see what it is that would make you truly happy and provide you with satisfaction. Make sure that you see how it would serve others as well as yourself.
So, your task is to write out what your life would look like if you lived your passion. Once you have written it out, then you need to look at your skill set and resources that you possess that could help you achieve that passion. Do you need some more education? Do you need a mentor? What skills do you have and what skills do you need to build? Lay it all out there and see what it looks like. Once you have all that in place, the next step is to plan out the next 30 days and create some actions that will help you research the reality of what you are seeking. Now dream it! Think about it and talk about it with others. Share your thoughts with your family, friends or whomever you feel would listen. Most importantly, listen to yourself. Monitor how your attitude and mood changes when you think about this dream. Check your pulse as you talk about it and share with others. What changes do you see in you? What happens when you go to your current job? How's your attitude now? Do you see the potential in what you have or do you see the need for change? Wow! Ready to challenge yourself? Need to throw some ideas out there or find a network to seek more information about what you seek? Start asking around and truly challenge yourself to find the reality in your life's passion.
Need some help or want some feedback? Contact me or use the Social Forum on my website to start a discussion. You never know who might have the answer which helps you take one more step toward living life to the fullest full of joy and happiness. You have one life to live, so explore the possibility of living your hobby, your passion.
In my next blog, I am going to ask the question and answer it, "What's holding you back from living your passion?" Can't wait to share and hear from you.
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