Communicate Piece 7 : “I"

To continue on the Communication Journey, we find the 7th letter to be the “I”.  The “I” is to Indicate.  You might be thinking,”What does Indicate have to do with Communication?”  On the surface, I can’t agree with you more.  Let’s explore Indicate.

Indicate is defined as to point out or share. It also can mean to suggest as a desired or necessary course of action.  In order for you to communicate, you must listen and give feedback.  To truly communicate, you must understand the other individual or team before you can expect them to understand you.  You must listen, evaluate and then indicate or give a suggestion based on what they have given you.  Do you truly listen to those around you?  Do you offer suggestions based on their need or do you give suggestions based on your own need or bias?  Many times we seek support and advice only to receive another’s wish or desired outcome.

What is it in communication that makes you tick?  Do you thrive off of helping others or manipulating others?  Tough questions, but you need to know your motivation before you indicate a direction to the person or team you are communicating with.  Your suggestion may cause great success for the other person/team or it may cause great distress.

Indicate your desired outcomes in any interaction.  What is the purpose of the interaction in the first place?  Can you handle the responsibility?  Are you willing to listen and provide a course of action?

My friends, go back to the first letter of the word communicate: “C”.  Remember that the “C” means to care.  You must truly care in order to fully communicate.  Please care before you “I”, indicate.  Your feedback could change another’s life dramatically.  Know your limits and know the person or team you are communicating with.

Journey through life seeking ways to provide a better path for those you interact with and truly Communicate.

Truth~ "Why"

As we journey across this great globe, we "CEEK" the truth in all that is around us.  Why do we fear?  Why do we lose hope?  Why do we give up our own way of thinking?  Why....why....why.....

We normally think of a young child when we hear someone asking "Why?", but isn't it true that we all ask this?   We want to know the reason behind our struggles and pains.  We want to explore how to enrich our lives.  As we "CEEK" our wants, we begin to realize that we don't know the 'How' and need to ask "Why"!

Our company has expanded to the "CEEK" division where we are traveling presenting talks and workshops helping individuals and teams answer their "Why" in life.  What is your "Why"?

First seek to understand those around you so that you may be understood.  Your "Why" will be answered once you understand the approach to networking and the power of the "Why".  We know from several documents that all we need to do is ask!

Challenge:  When will you ask us your "Why"?  The first 50 individuals who ask their "Why" at info@ceekbalance.com will receive a free short, yet powerful answer.  Please stump us and invite us to visit you and your community, family or work team.  We love any challenge and are helping individuals and teams realize wonderful, powerful life changing results.

Thanks and ...."CEEK" Your "Why"!

Another Thought......

"Are you living Your Purpose?"   "Why Not?"

Thought of the Day....

"A Confused Mind Clouds a Happy Heart!"

Coming Back....to Communication

Haven't been communicating recently due to travels, changes and more!  Will be back to communicate and complete the Communication travels.

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The 'N' in Communicate! Part Six!

We now move into the 6th letter of the communication sequence.  This is the part of the process that involves the 'C' in communication.  'C' as we recall is to Care.  We need to Care first before we communicate in any situation.  Our relationships depend on it, but we also know that Care alone won't create effective communication.  We now travel into the 'N' as we communicate.



The 'N' is to Nurture!  To 'Nurture' is to care and encourage the development of someone or something else.  In our communication with others, we need to understand how we can grow the relationship and encourage others in the process.  Unfortunately, we tend to be in interactions with a must win attitude and with the tone of selfishness.  We focus on us in the interaction and relationship and fail to see the other person.   We need to not only infuse our point of view into any interaction, but also find ways to influence and help the other person to grow in their understanding of the situation.  It isn't always about us and as I have said countless times before, we must understand the position of the other person in their quest for resolution and support.  When you are out to help others, you see beyond their inadequacies and can focus on their possibilities.  Share, care and help prepare!  You have the power to build healthy relationships when you seek to first help those you are interacting with.

A couple pointers for you concerning the 'N' - Nurture!

1.  Before you enter enter an interaction in a relationship, know the situation.  What are the details behind the interaction?  Get to know what are the hidden pieces within the relationship.  Why are you entering the interaction or relationship?  What is the value to both parties?  Understanding the value to everyone involved helps us understand the value of what we are about to encounter.  Many times we react due to initial emotion and then compound the difficulty in our relationship.  Take that moment to cool down and seek to find the pieces involved within the situation.  Your relationship depends on you being patient and understanding.  Show your resolve to solve.

2.  Be the other person!  What?  Are you crazy?  Why would I want to do that?  Get that way of thinking out of your head.  If you were to put yourself in the other person's position, you would be able to strategize in order to get your point across more effectively.  Once you are the other person, you see their point of view and can create more effective statements.  Nurture - help by caring and encouraging.  Knowing them helps you care and encourage.  Lose your selfishness and help seek resolution.  You can do it!

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Communicate Part 5 the "U"! I'm Back...Let's Continue!

I apologize for the long delay in my "communication"!  No excuses.....just got caught up in travels and consulting.  We had covered 'C', 'O', 'M' and 'M' thus far.... we Care, Observe, Make Time and Movement in our communication with others.  So what is this 'U' all about?

U: To Understand!  To truly enable healthy communication with ourselves as well as with others, we must find the ability to understand.  We find the definition of understand to be our ability to grasp the meaning of something and its reasonableness.  To understand is to be thoroughly familiar with the character and propensities of something or someone.  My thought is that in communication we must really adhere to the part of the definition that states our need to show a sympathetic or tolerant attitude toward something or someone!  How tolerant are you of others and even of yourself?  What does tolerance mean to you?  A simple definition can be one that states our willingness to accept feelings, habits or beliefs that are different than our own.  How judgmental are you?


We often find conflict in our communication with others because we find ourselves judging that other person or persons before us.  We make assumptions before we truly get to know the other individual.  Think about this for a second.....There are no two people exactly alike.  Even twins will have some difference however small it may be.  So if we are all different (thank goodness!), then why are we so quick to lose tolerance of others and even ourselves at times?  You can see by the events in this world that the 'U' in the word communicate is not used or considered at all.  We see wars, divorces, fights, riots, laws, .....the list goes on because we fail to truly understand those before us.  Who determines what is perfect or what is truly right? Even in religion there needs to be tolerance and understanding of others.  In Christianity, Jesus communicated with those who were not of faith and who were 'sinners'.  Why is it then that many Christians find themselves not understanding or tolerant of those who are not like them?  Why is it this way in all religions when in fact most of the 'prophets' preached of acceptance and care?  Hmmm....we wonder why there is so much turmoil in this world and even in our simple relationships!

A few things to consider:
1.  Look at the whole picture before you begin to communicate a difference or when there is a conflict.  Seek to 'Understand' the other person's point of view and where they are coming from.  You often hear that you shouldn't judge until you have walked in another's shoes.  There is a great deal of meaning behind that statement.  You need to look through the lense of the other's life before you begin your communication.  This will enable you to approach your communication in a much more empathetic and sympathetic way.  You will be able to ask questions that direct the conversation to the issue instead of the 'behaviors' and 'values' of each person.

2. Shut up!  What I mean by this is that you need to listen more and talk less.  When you allow the other individual to talk, you open up your understanding of the issue at hand and the pieces of the other person that are the values, beliefs, and understandings they possess.  When you truly listen, you can re-phrase statements that are made by the other individual and generate questions that guide the conversation toward a solution. Keep your communication brief, meaningful and on target with the issue at hand and not on the individual in front of you.  Keep it simple and make sure you 'C' first and foremost - Care!

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