The 'N' in Communicate! Part Six!

We now move into the 6th letter of the communication sequence.  This is the part of the process that involves the 'C' in communication.  'C' as we recall is to Care.  We need to Care first before we communicate in any situation.  Our relationships depend on it, but we also know that Care alone won't create effective communication.  We now travel into the 'N' as we communicate.



The 'N' is to Nurture!  To 'Nurture' is to care and encourage the development of someone or something else.  In our communication with others, we need to understand how we can grow the relationship and encourage others in the process.  Unfortunately, we tend to be in interactions with a must win attitude and with the tone of selfishness.  We focus on us in the interaction and relationship and fail to see the other person.   We need to not only infuse our point of view into any interaction, but also find ways to influence and help the other person to grow in their understanding of the situation.  It isn't always about us and as I have said countless times before, we must understand the position of the other person in their quest for resolution and support.  When you are out to help others, you see beyond their inadequacies and can focus on their possibilities.  Share, care and help prepare!  You have the power to build healthy relationships when you seek to first help those you are interacting with.

A couple pointers for you concerning the 'N' - Nurture!

1.  Before you enter enter an interaction in a relationship, know the situation.  What are the details behind the interaction?  Get to know what are the hidden pieces within the relationship.  Why are you entering the interaction or relationship?  What is the value to both parties?  Understanding the value to everyone involved helps us understand the value of what we are about to encounter.  Many times we react due to initial emotion and then compound the difficulty in our relationship.  Take that moment to cool down and seek to find the pieces involved within the situation.  Your relationship depends on you being patient and understanding.  Show your resolve to solve.

2.  Be the other person!  What?  Are you crazy?  Why would I want to do that?  Get that way of thinking out of your head.  If you were to put yourself in the other person's position, you would be able to strategize in order to get your point across more effectively.  Once you are the other person, you see their point of view and can create more effective statements.  Nurture - help by caring and encouraging.  Knowing them helps you care and encourage.  Lose your selfishness and help seek resolution.  You can do it!

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